Confront or not

[shelby3470]

I've found out that my dh has a separate Facebook acc with a different name which he's using for 'sex chat', as well as becoming a member of online chat/sex websites. He stupidly didn't log out of these pages or delete his browsing history...and I don't know how or whether to confront him....is this a form of cheating everyone seems to have an opinion on this

Confront.

Yes.

Now.

cheating in my opinion yes.

sorry

I know I can't carry the knowledge around with me for much longer, its trying to start the conversation that I'm struggling with...

Don't frame it as confront if that makes you uncomfortable.
Discuss it with him. You are his wife you are perfectly entitled to be pissed off at this - you sound like you don't feel you have that right.

wukter - you are exactly right, maybe because I'm scared of what I'm going to hear but things can't continue like this, my mind is imagining all kinds of scenario.

You are right, they cannot continue

You need to get to the bottom of the deceit and understand why he needs a seperate FB account and to log on to sex chat sites.

Is he bored?

Is he looking for attention?

Does he actually want to go through with it and meet somebody?

Only he can answer that but you need to ask him. Calmly and not in a confrontational manner.

And then you can decide what YOU want to do.

And remember that men often only reveal what they have to. So there may be more that he still thinks he can keep quiet about.

That is certainly true in my experience.

I would show him the site and ask him to explain. That way there is no way of him trying to wiggle out of it. He knows you know and have the evidence in front of you. Sorry he's being such an idiot. x

I agree with ChocHobNob. I showed the evidence, after asking a question I got a lie in reply too. No denying it then.

leave.

Not only is he cheating but he has such little respect for you that he hasnt even bothered to hide it well.

Yuk, nasty taste in mouth