Have just found out that a friend has been having an emotional affair with someone over the internet.
Actually I'd suspected it a long time ago, but he'd told me that he was separated from his wife, and because he lives in a different country to me I had no way of knowing one way or the other.
And then I discovered quite by chance that he had two facebook accounts, one with his rl friends, and one with his online friends. so confronted him, and he said that his wife had actually found out a couple of weeks ago.
Now he is determined to put this behind them and to make his marriage work, and he hasn't had any contact with the ow (so he says). In fact the ow's relationship status on fb has now changed to single (her settings aren't very private so it was easy to check). but..
He had told her he was divorced and free to pursue a relationship with her.
They live in separate countries so had never met up, and he lied about being declined for a US visa when he was going to see her so he could have an excuse for not going.
He's oh so remorseful and says he knows he can't contact her again, but equally he doesn't want her to know he's actually been married all along. He claims it will hurt her
I think she has a right to know and have told him he should tell her. Have said that actually it might make her hate him enough not to want to contact him again anyway so he can work on his marriage.
So - would you want to know?