seperation

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have never done this but am desperate.... have just found out my husband having affair, i want him to stay he wants to go... our relationship has been rocky and we have been under immense pressure but i believed in it, he says that i have crushed him and that he no longer sees a future, the only future i can believe in for me and kids is him can anyone help i am broken

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I think the best thing to do, is to let your dh go for now. Sometimes people can't think straight when they are in the thick of things. Be brave, try to carry on as best as you can. It is going to be very hard, but you can do it. If he decides to leave and not come back, then there is not much you can do about it. If after a time, he does decide that he has made a mistake and wants to come back to his family and he is truly remorseful and does everything in his power to prove to you that he is FULLY committed to your relationship, then reassess the situation and decide if you want him back or not. In the meantime, love yourself and don't lose your dignity by begging him to stay. I wish you lots of courage and strength.x