I feel that men ruin my life rather than add to it.

[poshsinglemum]

Please remind me that they are NOT all the same. i need a good kick up the arse and possibly a shag (although not from you lot!)

I have been feeling shit about my ex recently who almost killed me and ruined my career/life.

Most of all I am horrified that I put up with such behaviour. I can't believe with his controlling ways. I was such a doormat in my youth. How do I forgive myself for being a victim?

Sorry to moan but sometimes I can't believe that I've been soooooo stupid with regards to my choice in partner.

ps, and the reason I did that perhaps, was because my parents weren't glamorous or materialistic. They seemed annoying wholesome to me as a teenager! Embarrassingly content with their simple lot in life.

But at the core of their simple life was an equal companionship. I think I missed that crucial part when I was casting such a critical eye over their lives. They valued what they had but I didn't even notice it.

When I started noticing men, I wanted a relationship which seemed flashier and more glamorous. Ironic. I never ended up with that. And, I didn't even have the basic relationship that might have been under the 'excitement' iyswim.

Does this make sense? Just pointing out that you can have parents who set a good role model and still you can mess it all up.

I can stay single though. I am prepared to stay single for the rest of my life, and maybe that's because due to my childhood I'm not needy.. WHo knows.

Magalyzz- hi there. I know exactly what you mean about appearing to be happy. I wanted a boyfriend because one had to have one in order to fit into my posh school. There were many alarm bells but I chose to ''right for this love.''
I guess I am starting to forgive myself. I was young and whatever dosn't kill you makes
you stronger etc.

Hi scottish mummy- I have taken up many hobbies and I intend to keep going with them but it's like having a wound that won't heal. it scabs over bu occasionally bursts
I still feel the need to make him pay. I know I should just lead a good life which is the best way to get revenge.

''fight for this love'' I mean.

I want to do voluntary work for women''s aid.

make sure you are in robust and stable frame of mind.need to be sorted befroe yoy can deal with anyone issues. have think how will affect you before you plunge in