Why tell me??

[dogdyinnit]

I was on a night out last week with a load of work mates, they are mostly all men. I am friendly with all of them and im pretty sure i have a great working relationship with everyone in my workplace.

One in particular whom i have a proper laugh with and a good old gossip took me aside to tell me that he likes me, really likes me.

Not a problem except that he is married!! By his own admission very happily married!!

So why say anything? What did he expect me to say? This is not the first time something like this has happened..

I have examined my behaviour over and over to see if i am sub conciously giving these guys the come on.

I honestly believe that i am not which has been aggreed by my friends who definately would not pull any punches, i am lucky enough to have friends that tell it like it is, straight, as i do with them!!

Has anyone else had experience of this and why are men such shit houses?!!

I had a similar experience. There was a guy I'd been working with at a long hearing who decided to try it on. I'd already told him I was happily married and admired the pictures of his 2 DSs. I told him not to be a silly arse. i really don't know why it seems a good idea to say something though. Misguided beer honesty?

i seem to attract married men too,sadly!

more men out there looking for a bit on the side than i realised! its as if its the norm these days!

and i attract women too!!!

Yeah maybe it was misguided beer honesty, although the guy in question knows all about previous married/attached guys who have tried their luck!!

So now im doubting every conversation we ever had? He text me this weekend to ask how i was, that he was thinking about me and that he hoped he wasn't on my 'stalker list'!!

Thats my affectionate term to the more than a few who have made very very unwanted advances lately!!

I will have to see him tomorrow in work and i dont want it to be in any way awkward, so yet again i will have to make it ok and brush it all under the carpet so to speak

I guess im just kind of sad about it all cos i really did think he was different...

LOL ILT!!!!

awww....well at least you know now!

hmmmm... yep i sure do know now and it doesn't exactly fill me with joy...

having dreams about him too

not that i would ever try them out in real life tho

oh yamashita, bless... are you a bit by any chance?!!

same here so bloody sad and frustrating.
Qll I want is a friendship but it seems that men can't have a friendship with a single woman in my case.

Farts all of them.

You can prob tell really fed up and wishing I could meet someone who could take me seriously and not as something to 'take on' so to speak

I seem to attract young just out of their teens boys...'tis true.

What has he got to lose? He sees it like this, if she's up for it, I get my leg over, if not, oh well I go home and give the wife one instead!
Simples.

fyimate seems to have it right!

Most men don't think about things like this - they just chance their arm - and sometimes it works out for them!

Anyway, presumably you gave him a good ol' brush off and recoiled with "but you're married!" so he won't be doing it again.

see what i mean!!!!lol

and (can't believe this) met dd's friends parents for the first time a while back,and i got the distinct impression they are swingers,and saw me as a target!! i swear!

I'll let you into a secret, my DP used to be very 'successful' amoung women. ;) I say used to because he's with me now and obviously is only successful with me
But he did tell me all about what men REALLY think and why they do the things they do. I've learnt a lot from him am glad to be with him because he's so honest with me.

I have to get off the cheese...