Self employed widow - Hubby never here

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My OH would rather work as he loves it. Its his life and hobby. Than be in the house with our two pre-school children. My fella would never dream of coming in and playing with the children or reading a newspaper in our company.

It is a lonely life for me and I just get so fed up but we have discussed it but like he sayes you've got to grab every penny. We run a sucessful business but it needs all the money and weekends can be when some of the little jobs and maintenance can be done. He is so motivated, determined and a real grafter.

In a way I'm quiet jealous of his freedom from the house, boring chores and children. Bar going for endless walks I'm fed up. Struggle to think what to do.

On the other hand yes, I have nice stuff and I do have a nice life. But I do everything and if I ask him to do any DIY in the house it never gets done (I do it myself). Lovely children but its tough being a self employed widow.

I suppose you cant have it all? But fed up with feeling like a single mum....anyone offer any ideas how I can boust myself?

How about telling him you are not happy and things have to change? nice things don't equal a happy relationship if you are not happy.

Well, at the risk of sounding a bit preachy, you really aren't experiencing what it's like to be a single parent so you probably won't get a lot of sympathy from those of us who are! BUT, I can see that the situation is far from ideal.

If you're a SAHM then do you go out and meet other mums/parents? Do you have a circle of friends you can visit? Is there any hobby or interest you could do more of if the children went to nursery for a few hours a week?

Of if this is all about your DH then you probably need to do as Fab suggested...

i agree with belle.

might be worth rewritting post and leaving out widow and single parent as you are neither but plenty of posters truly are and are struggling through it.sorry!

You need to take charge of your own life, not sit about waiting for him to do anything

and the real widows and real single parents amongst us have little choice, we get on with it, alone!

Why don't you get more involved in the business or find another job?
I know what it's like to look after pre-schoolers and if you feel that you aren't getting any support it must be hard.

Does you DH know how you feel? He may just think he is providing for his family, not realising you need another sort of help.

so what does he do when he does have time off??