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How do I stop feeling responsible for ex?

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superdeeduper · 31/05/2010 13:52

Just that really! Why can't I walk away? We split almost 2 years ago but slowly, drifted closer again. I don't think it was even slowly, I just can't seem to break the bond with him.

As we have 3 dcs, it is hard for me to get "out there" and find someone else but I don't think I want to. I long for us to just be a happy family together.

He has is own ishoos which he has never tried to address. He suffers from depression on/off but is always in denial. We split due to a coke addiction which he claims to have stopped now.He is grumpy and intolerant of people so why the hell do I want him around???

We have gone back to sleeping with each other again which just makes it even more complicated. How do I stop myself from being a door mat to this selfish man when part of me still loves all the good qualities about him?

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superdeeduper · 31/05/2010 13:54

oh should have explained I feel responsible due to the fact that he comes and unloads his problems on me and like a fool, I sit and listen. I always feel a need to try and make things better for him. WTF?!!

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