Not enough love for two?

[notenoughfor2]

Anybody feel that when their baby was born they did not have enough love for their baby and partner?

notenoughfor2

Its quite common. Hope you are ok.

Yes, but love takes many forms, and changes in different situations. Of course men love their children, but not in the same way we do. I'm too tired to elaborate properly, I'm sure someone else will post with a better explanation..!

It sorts itself out. I have been quite clear with my DH - that at this point - given a choice between my kids and him, my kids would come out on top every time. I understand that at the same time you need to be careful that when the kids leave the nest you and your DH still have something between you ... But while they are so dependant I think that generally the maternal instincts to give give give are very strong. Unless of course you had 'issues' with your partner before baby came along ... Gopd Luck, Sim

Agree that there are different types of love. And I would choose my children over my dh every day of the year. I have to remind myself sometimes to 'work' on loving dh.

I wholeheartedly disagree with the idea that men don't love their children the same way we do. My dh absolutely adores our dc. It makes it very easy for me to remember to love him when I see how much they mean to each other.

I don't know if dh would choose the children over me though. I don't mean they don't love them as much, it's just different.

i met a man the other day who swore blind he would choose his dw over his dc in a burning building situation!

Is not lack of love but sheer exhaustion, something has to give and unfortunately for the man, babies needs are normally more urgent.