My DH and I have not really gelled all our time together in many ways. (over 20 years and 2 DCs,( one of whom has a mix of dyslexia, ADHD and dyspraxia.)
I am seriously thinking of leaving him and although the Aspie label is meaningless, in some ways it would make it easier for me if I could pin it on him, rather than admitting I have just made a dreadful mistake.
We did the online Aspergers test- I scored 9 and he scored around 25 which is almost the cut -off point for normal/Aspie. it is certainly at the top end of what is "normal".
The main things about him which drive me mad and make me feel he is on another planet include:
He is slightly OCD- about locking up the house, keeping to a routine ( wears exactly the same clothes eachweek on "Dress down Friday even though he has plenty of choice.)
Collects things- like cameras and tools even though he doesn't use them all- ever.
Likes dusting and cleaning these.
Is ultra-careful/cautious over stuff like receipts- has carrier bags full of old receipts for things bought on his cards- even newspapers and items worth less then a £1.
Has no/few friends and never socialises outside the home except for the very occasional drink with a colleague/ex colleague maybe once or twice a year.
We never have anyone come to our house socially except my girl friends.
He's not great at conversation and over the years I have stopped inviting other couples round as I find he is so quiet I have to do all the talking.
He DOES have good social awareness and picks up body language etc.
He is content to spend a lot of time on his own and doesn't seem to need people.
I don't know if this is normal bloke-ish behaviour, or if there is something else- he is also dyslexic.
anyone any opinion on this?