my ex

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right I realise this is my problem and I haven't moved on. Maybe this is the issue.
Have already posted this on chat, and thank you so much to those who replied, just thought maybe this more appropriate forum.
'for fun(ha)' I followed my ex in fb and tracked back his gf. We were together ten years ago. I do not check his fb regularly (he added me as friend, I declined, he is friend of friend so I can see for eg his friends. Obv she is one) Anyway, they apparently celebrated their 10th anni in March. We did not split up till the May. I just feel rubbish about it, it has brought up all old feelings, I had a really hard time getting over him, blamed myself, if I had said x instead of y, and all the time he was with someone else.I KNOW is ancient history, but it hurts, and I don't know what to do with it.

You don't do anything with it. As much as it hurts, it just proves what an arse he was / is, and how much better off you are without him. Don't let it get you down. Know that's very easy to say, but its just not worth it.

you need to let go and move on. 10 years is ancient history. he treated you badly, and i think the key question is why you are even giving him headspace after so long.

concnetrate on the good stuff in your life

He was the man I loved for so long. he was the benchmark. I loved him so much. I was absolutely devestated when it ended, it took me years to get over it. I am now married with best DDs in world(apart from all yours of course .
It just has rocked me to think that in the midst of all this, he was 2 timing me. I suppose I expected it in a way, he was a cagey bugger always, but to have it confirmed just really hurts, it feels like part of my life has been invalidated.
I know I am giving him, or his memory too much power, I want to move on ...I just don't know how?

5 years after splitting up with someone eons ago, I was told by someone where I worked that he had got someone pg while he was with me & although they never got together he had contact with her because of the baby(I knew he was sleeping around but not this particular 'lady'). I was angry & hurt but I had to let it go for my own sake. Never spoke to him about it either. Move on, he's not worth it.

lazarusb
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Thanks for that, it was sad but...what a twat! And at least he didn't pass on any STIs to me, so I'm grateful for that.