30 weeks pregnant and all messed up

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I'm 30 weeks pregnant and my BF has announced we should have a clean break and not see each other anymore. I can't totally blame him as he's not the father of my baby to be and I know he's scared of becoming a father by default. He's admitted he's otherwise happy in our relationship.
Am I being selfish in trying to convince him to stay? I've never asked him to be my baby's father and we don't live together so it doesn't have to be that way.
He says he doesn't want to let anymore children down after his previous marriage ended in divorce. Although he sees his children regularly I think he still feels guilty for leaving them.
We've been together on and off for 4 years now and my pregnancy is the result of a brief fling during a break we had. My baby will have regular contact with her biological father.
It all seems a total mess right now...I feel like I'm losing my best friend when I should be focusing on my baby to be.
Any advice please?

How can he not be the father, or at least step father, if you are in a relationship? Sorry, but if he doesn't want to be a step dad I can't see how you can be together, really. Sorry.

As sad as it is, tbh, I think that the break will be for the best.

Try to find some RL support that can help you through the rest of the PG. You can't rely on this guy, he's not the dad, he had the choice to either step up or stand aside. He's chosen the second option.

He has let you down somehow, but to string you along would be worse. At least you know where you stand with him.

So sorry this is happening to you, it must be really scary.

Stick around with us here at MN, we'll be there for you to hold hands...

(shhhh!)

Thanks for your advice and support. I guess in my heart I know you're both right, I just needed to hear someone else say it. I need to focus now on life ahead without him. I think a bit of shoe shopping is in order today to cheer myself up