Some of you may have seen my threads about my mother previously.
Anyway, to cut a looooong story short, my mum didn't raise me, and left me to be raised with my abusive grandmother. I didn't get to know my mother until I was 16. I have tried and tried to build a loving relationship with her, but to be truthful she is just so spiteful. Everything has always had to be about her.
Anyway I tried to make an effort for 16 years, but we had an enormous argument in October. My grandmother died last year - neither me, my mum or my mum's siblings had spoken to her in years. However as soon as she died everyone was weeping and wailing, fighting over the will, all sorts. I have been (for years) cut up over the abuse I had to go through as a child, my mother said that now that my gran was dead I should 'get over it', and that everything was in the past. She was planning all she could do with the will money (about 80 grand) and was just being more horrible than normal. We had a row, she told me to do one, and I have not seen or spoken to her since. Christmas and my birthday came and went. She has said (via family members) that I am dead to her now.
Anyway, my dd is still (obviously) in touch with her and loves her, and has planned to go to Devon to spend half term. DP was originally going to take her down, however he has to work this weekend so i am having to drive down and drop dd off. I am really worried about this. I just don't WANT to see her, it will be too upsetting. I also don't want a scene - my mother loves the drama and she may well start kicking off./crying/shouting the odds. I also don't want dd to be more embroield in this than she needs to be. What do I do - just sit in the car and don't get out? I am just shitting myself and am dreading it.
Anyone got any advice?