Is facebook damaging my friendships??

[EstroGena]

I confess to being a FB addict, mainly due to being pregnant most of last year and housebound!! I am now finding it is affecting my frienships (well some anyway!)

For example:

DH status update: Family EstroGena are excited to be arranging small family celebration

Result: snotty and offensive emails from 2 supposed friends as not invited! no longer speaking

My update: would love a ... bag but £150 out of my reach

Result:so called close pal emailed next day to say had seen, googled and bought herself one! AAArrgh

these are tame examples!!!! should i stop updating or is it weeding out the chaff????

Anyone got any horror FB stories ???

the 2 friends who were pissed off about not being invited to a small party sound like twats you are better off without.

the other friend just sounds like a shopping addict. Offer to buy the bag if she gets bored of it .

You all sound rather immature TBH. Your friends for being snotty and offensive about not being invited to something, your other friend for boasting that she had something you publicly wanted, and you for caring that much that she did.

FACEBOOK IS EVIL

Sorry, I just realised how mean I sound. I didn't mean to be horrible, it just struck me as all being so very petty...I'm sure you aren't immature.

Annie's right, it's evil!

Facebook is Evil but i am addicted too, i like to see what people are up to.

Facebook has actually caused me and my two cousins to fall out. Mainly because i can sit on FB and they judge me but yet they are BOTH on it daily despite having children aswell and if i judge them they hate it. Bitches!

TheProvincalLady- youre right! It is petty! And dont apologise for calling me immature, at 36 immature can almost be enjoyed as a compliment!!! (grasping at staws I know!)

I just think that it is possibly our own doing for putting anything remotely personal on there. Perhaps the mature thing to do is to spy but not comment or indeed dont go on at all?!?!

But sometimes you just cant help yourself!!

Ha ha I'm 35 and I know what you mean about clutching those straws!

I don't think Facebook is evil, actually, any more than interaction with people face to face is evil. I am on FB every day and I have literally never had a problem with anything. If you have friends who are the type to get arsey and rude over not being invited to something, it is better to know that surely? They are still idiots, with their behaviour lying dormant until the day they just happened to find out you were having a party without them. They could just have easily found out by word of mouth.

yeah i know! oh i dunno! i just feel like i am leaving myself exposed to comment and criticism!!

last week for instance i had my ds friend round for lunch and play! popped some pics on FB and low and behold some woman from his school who I would call an acquaintance passed comment that I had only made a healthy lunch because the 'friend's' father is a professional and so I was trying to impress! FFS what do they think i feed my kids? Turkey Twizlers?!?! This annoyed me!!! Esp as i was a professional person pre rugrats and even if i wasnt so WHAT!

WTF, i think the problem must be with me!!! Perhaps I have had a sense of humour bypass! Must have lost it on my 36th birthday!

Facebook is evil, I have lost a friend a couple of years ago over comments.

Last week I had a massive row with my dsis and our close friend because instead of talking face to face messages about a problem were sent through fb and in the end some awful things were said on all sides.

My dsis who I have never rowed with in 23 years not even the usual growing up rows is now not talking to me and the friend well I think that friendship is over for good.

I think it is a lot easier to misinterpret things through websites and easier to be a lot nastier than you would be face to face.

I am sorry to hear that!!! It is awful! Youre right, things are misinterpreted and damage is done! I know it isnt all bad as it has been wonderful catching up with people after 20 years or so but it is sad when it goes wrong!!

Think i will just stick to mumsnet and use facebook as a spying tool only. Will take some willpower though to stop my fingers from typing !!!!

Well it has taught me a lesson .

My family are now blocked from seeing anything I put on fb.

Feel very sad about it all TBH it is my dd's first birthday on Saturday and my dsis will not be coming to visit .

FAcebook isn't evil. Some people who use it are twats. The two uninvited friends sound like twats, the bag lady doesn't seem to have done anything wrong other than make you a bit jealous. Am sure it wasn't intentional.

i don't put anything too personal on FB - its asking for trouble - keep it light and neutral

I dont like the smugness of my female relatives/friends who say they are "too busy" too go on facebook, it makes me feel like I have too much time on my hands!! and, I dont like getting requests for friendships from people I went to school with who I cant even remember. Im too nice to delete but I dont accept either!

kittya I bet those friends who are 'too busy' for FB spend just as much time on their nails / TV / Wii / trashy mags / house price websites / sleeping. I am in exactly the same position. Smug friends who actually 'waste' heaps of time doing stuff I am not interested in. Different strokes for different folks!

FB is not evil, as long as you dont talk it too seriously and realise that ppl often type stuff they would never say to your face...

And they always want to know the gossip about what our mutuals are up to!! then again, they are always asking me to do favours on the net because they "dont have time" I spend much less time watching trash tv then they do. I like it as a way of keeping in touch of people. I just take it for what it is and I only have people I know on there. The fools that ring in work sick but update their status's on a regular basis!