struggling to move on!

[fishingboat]

I'm feeling really down today, over the last few months I have had a fallout with my two best friends. I no there's no going back for any of us!

I see these friends every day when I drop my daughter off at school, they teamed up with some others mums, these mums have now stopped talking to me too, I try not to let this bother me because I know the sort of things my so-called friends used to say about these people!

But I am finding it hard standing in the playground listening to the laughter between them which is quite loud and I'm sure for my benefit.

I'm trying to move on, make new friends etc which I am finding difficult too.

Any advice on how I can move on??

I would firstly get a set of ipod earphones for the playground....loud laughter foryour benefit is cruel....you dont need to plug the earphones in just tuck the end out of sight of course.....There is an air of nochlance about someone with earphones in andthey will realise that you are not acutally appreciating their poor form

Secondly, take care XXX and maybe draft a letter to your friends tellign them how you feel, you dont have to do anything with the letter but it might make you feel better and it might also make you realise thatyou actually would like to break the ice with them and make up?

thankyou keepstrong (love the name )I really did try to put things right but it fell on deaf ears. I think thats why it hard for me to move on.

They sound like bitchy 14 year olds! Be glad you are out of it. Like the earplugs idea.

sunglasses too! always sunglasses. they are a little suit of armour for the eyes.

Its amazing how adults can behave worse than the kids. Playground politics make me laugh.

You are a grown woman and shouldn't feel intimidated like this. Ignore them and fine something else to get involved in like a new hobby for yourself, I don't know, just don't get so involved if they make you feel this way. Concentrate your efforts on something else.

Sorry you are having to deal with such immature, hurtful behaviour.

I think the ipod idea is great. Especially if you can choose a track that makes you feel good about yourself for the very moment that you are near them in the playground.

Failing that is there something you could say to yourself (in your head, muttering aloud is not a good look ) that mignt help you feel strong at that moment- maybe "this too shall pass", "I can keep strong" (given that you love the name) or something similar.

Its so sad that grown-ups can be so cruel.

What a horrible thought that these are the women who are supposed to be bringing up the next generation to be good citizens. Great example they're setting eh?

Smiling and waving (without going over to them) is a good strategy, makes them wonder what you're up to

thank you for all your replies, have made some plans to meet up with some other mums in half term, going to put my energy into making new friendships instead of worrying about things I can't change!!

I have tried the sun classes they worked a treat, and they all turned up to an out of school club that I've attended with my children for way of a year last night, there's no escaping them, but on the up side I held my own and pretended they weren't there!!