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beat this!!

4 replies

suzysuzysuzy · 26/05/2010 05:27

anyone ever go to (good old) relate for marriage counselling...and later discover f**kwit husband having aNOTHER affair with a new employee?

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thumbwitch · 26/05/2010 06:09

nope - but it sounds shit and as though he should be kicked into touch rather quickly.

Tortington · 26/05/2010 06:16

i don't know how you can have his dirty dick near you. get rid.

goodluck

Mandi1984 · 26/05/2010 06:40

Nope - but would recommend throwing all his belongings on to the lawn as therapeutic AND effective.

SolidGoldBrass · 26/05/2010 10:00

Well, no, but it's not the counselling that's at fault here, is it?
Your H is obviously not monogamous and has no intention of remaining monogamous, so you have a very simple choice: either accept that he will frequently have sex with other people, or end the relationship.
There is no magic button to press, no counselling, nothing you could do by means of changing your appearance or behaviour to 'make' him love you and remain monogamous in future. He's not going to do it, you can't change another person's behaviour when that person doesn't want to change. All you can do is decide how to react ie accept the behaviour or leave the relationship.

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