Paranoid or right to be suspicious?

[chickenPsyc]

I have to be brief. DCs home soon.

DP has orange mobile. As far as I know, no others.

I saw an outgoing on his bank account for a t-mobile phone. twice. Nobody in this house has t-mobile.

He left his pc account on by accident earlier. Looked at history. He has account with t-mobile.

First time I ever mentioned t-mobile to him he said he had nothing to do with them. Now when I mention it, he looks panic stricken and says he has an internet doggle with them. I've never seen it.

When I looked at the t-mobile site in his history, it went straight to MOBILE PHONE SERVICES. Would it still say this if all he had was a doggle? it also said something about dispatch in the address bit. And also in his history is carphone warehouse.

He HAS lied before. Is very good at it. No point in asking him about it. I only deal with solid evidence.

Right to be suspicious! He clearly is paying for a T Mobile account, even if he himself isn't using the phone. Did you get hold of the number? If so you could try withholding your home number (dial 141 first) and ringing up, or asking someone to do it for you.

Does not sound at all good on the face of it.
A t-mobile account could well indicate that he has another phone.

What has he lied about before and how did you catch him out that time?.

What are you getting out of this relationship now and why are you still with a seemingly consummate liar?. On a much wider level is this the sort of relationship model you want your children to be seeing?.

It sounds like you are pretty sure he is being unfaithful to you. Why are you still with him? You say you only deal in solid evidence, but why is that? You can separate from someone because you don't trust them and the relationship is no longer working, whether or not he has been unfaithful and whether or not you can prove it.

If you don't trust him, then the relationship would seem to have hit a pretty big rock.

Could T mobile be for broadband, my stbexh opened a vodaphone account, which is for broadband only

Still have to be brief, kids walking around.

I don't trust him as he has lied many times before. Various stuff, some big lies, some stupid little lies with absolutely no point to them (for instance "I made an apointment with the doctor today" when actually, no he didn't! but I've not caught him out with cheating before. Not really suspected him of it until now tbh but I did see texts on his phone ages ago to his ex wife saying if she needed help with anything or needed taking anywhere he would take her, he then told me an entirely different story about where he was going that saturday!!

He says he has a t-mobile doggle. Could be true but why did the t-mobile site say "Mobile phone services". What about the carphone warehouse site? I don't know, something just doesn't add up. I don't suppose I'll ever trust him again knowing he's lied in the past.

In the past I have only found out the truth by snooping. And even then he'll lie until he's blue in the face - even when presented with evidence. I even start questioning my evidence sometimes because he's such a good bloody liar!

Or he could have a T-Mobile Sim card. You would not need another phone.

ASK Him, TELL him what you know for sure.
Where is the dongle then?

No trust - no relationship.

Again, why are you with someone like this?

Perhaps you have not given an answer to that question because you yourself do not know anymore.

Attila, no, I don't know. I guess it's a fear of change, the unknown, being alone. Pathetic I know. But I also constantly second guess myself. Maybe I'm just paranoid etc etc but when faced with inconsistances and lies ect, what else are you supposed to believe?

I have no idea if this is relevant or not but t-mobile and orange are merging so could it be that the billing has changed?
Might be totally off the mark but thought I'd mention it...
Hope it turns out to be something as innocuous as this!

You don[t really believe than any man, even when a liar and a cheat, is better than no man? Is that what you would want for your daughter?

All the time you are with someone you don't trust then you are losing time with a man who will worship you and never give you a moment of unease.

chicken why are you with a man you don't trust?

Do you really think that is better than being alone?

No he's still getting orange billed as orange so I know these are two seperate things.

I know things are not right here, even if he IS being honest about this, there are other things he'd lie about, I know it. He's done it in the past and people never really change, they just pretend for a while.

ive a t mobile contract...separate to my orange one. its for the broadband....which is a dongle which has a sim card and phone number....so he could be telling you the truth about the dongle