Estranged from mother + being dropped by other family members.

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I wanted to be dignified about it and not go on about it, but I feel that because I've refused to discuss my issues with my mother generally it's actually left the way clear for her to be mournful and victimised. I'm being frozen out. I'm sad. Half of me wants to fight it but half to just cut all ties and really sod the lot of them.

My Dad and I are getting on very well atm - he divorced her 25 years ago and knows what she's like - and my brother and sister are hanging on in there - just - but aunties and uncles, not so much.

DH and I are in a not so good phase, but committed to working it out and he's solidly supportive.

Anyone with any experience in these matters have wise words?

My Mum was like this and I found this site very helpful.

www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/here

Sorry if I am off base but the cutting me off from other family members was something my Mum was brilliant at and she matched all the criteria on this site.

Thanks shimmery I'll look now.

How are your relationships now, which were threatened?

I had a good read of this today + I definitely recognised my own mother in the descriptions of a narcissistic mother. But, hand on heart, I saw a few things that I'm not innocent of myself.

And the glee with which cutting out your whole family was described made me feel a bit ill - it looks more narcissistic than the narcissists. "You eight people annoy and depress me with your unloving behaviour. Begone from my sight."