Pls can I vent about the DV family next door

[Sparks]

It's a hot day, the windows are open and I can hear everything. I hate it! And I have the whole summer to look forward to of hearing him abuse his family.

Just now I had about 20 minutes of hearing him taunting his dd. And I have heard much worse

They have lived next door to me for 10+ years and it's been going all that time. I want my home to be a place where I can relax and unwind, but I just can't.

call the police, they will inform ss and evidence the concerns too.
call the police every time the bastard starts on his family. the number of incidents will get ss moving as it cannot be an isolated incident iyswim. also speak to the school, they can speak to the kids concerned and see if they need additional support. the school should also report any child protection concerns to ss. the more referrals from professionals the better.
junglist i'm racking my brain for a signature 'shut the fuck up you abusive bastard tune'....
kelis - i hate you so much right now??
i will think of more!!

my name is luca??

Shaddupa Your Face?

What than Thank You song? I can't remember the exact name but it goes "You hit, you kick, you split every bit of me, yeah. Your cold, your broke your such a joke to me yeah...."

Jamelia's Thank You is a very good song - about recovery from DV... rather pertinent

here

or this one:

Free

How could you listen to this and not call the police??!
I can't imagine how alone that poor woman and child/ren feel with people knowing what's going on but doing nothing to help! Just horrid.

Please call the police every time you hear something! You can stay confidential if that's the problem.

Also, if I were you, when I saw the wife and/or child alone I'd tell them that I'm here for them if they want to talk or any help to get away from him.

Just imagine if it were you and everybody was turning a blind eye....

Also, shame on you for being more concerened about your sunbathing being distuberd than somebody's suffering!

Wuglet - that's the song I was thinking about too

Its not the noise here thats the problem op its the abuse of the children. Call NSPCC again or call SS or call the police. If you're scared just say 'a neighbour' and don't give your number out.

You are an adult, its your duty, imo, to look after these children and report the abuse (by abuse I mean screaming/shouting at them).

OK so I phoned social services and told them what I know. I can't quite believe I have listened to a bunch of stangers on the internet, but I did it.

I am still afraid of the man, but it's out of my hands now. I feel like a said a bit too much to the sw on the phone. Even though I didn't give my name, somebody who knows me (i.e. the neighbours) would be able to identify me from the details I gave.

Maybe I didn't make this clear in my op, but I hear the neighbour's shouting indoors, in my own home. So does my dd and it does have an impact on her as well. It's something about the way the flats are built that means when their voices are raised, we can hear them in most of the rooms in our flat.

I still feel like we will have to spend the summer either sweltering with the windows closed or listening to this man abuse his family. You know the saying you can't choose your neighbours

What kind of stuff is he saying? Abusing them with? Is there any way at all that you could record it? So its not his word against yours?

I don't have anything to make a recording with.

What kind of stuff is he saying? He shouts at them to shut up. He calls them names, really horrible names I wouldn't want to repeat. The other day I heard him taunting the little girl, making fun of her, when she whinged, he taunted her even more, until eventually she started crying. Then the mum told her off for crying and sent her to her room.

Sparks you have done the right thing. Well done for having the courage.

Ohhh poor little mite

Cant you record it on your phone?

I might try the phone, but I'm not confident the recording would be usable. I have a fairly low-tech phone and I think you would have to be talking right into it for the recording to be understandable. No harm in trying, though.

How about the classic DV tune by Toni Childs.
Or the theme tune from Once Were Warriors.

Can I just thank everyone who's recommended calling SS - I wish someone had done that when I was a kid. I also used to wonder why the heck nobody said/did anything during my lousy marriages. It must have been obvious the rows were beyond normal. Things have changed for the better!

Well done, Sparks

Well done for calling SS Sparks. As a child who used to live in a DV family I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I'm glad you are a better neighbour than mine were when I was a child.

Good for you for calling SS. You might have made a big difference for those children. If you ever hear anything that indicates physical violence, don't hesitate to call the police. There's rarely such a level of continuous loud verbal abuse going on even though the abuser knows others can hear, without physical abuse too.

Excellent job Sparks, you should be really proud of yourself, I know it must have been scary and you've been really brave

Thanks everybody for your kind words. You are making me feel less scared

DOn't be scared. And he he does start threatening you, report it to the police. And give them the whole back story.
Was reading today that apparently a domestic violence incident is reported every minute. I know it's a big thing to you, but the police must get it all the time.