This problem is with my sister !

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Not my partner. He is fine.
My sister is a bit older than me and all our lives been the boss , in a very subtle way. She has always made me feel daft, thick and not as good as her. However, i know i am as good as her now. I stood up for myself several months ago when she gave me a hard time about not listening to her. It was very hypocritical so i said so and she was so unpleasant i ended up crying. We havnt fell out like that b4. She did apoligize after many weeks. I hope she will think twice b 4 she tries to put me down and put me in my place. Trouble is she is so critical and judgemental.
The BIG thing i am concerned about is we are on holiday in the summer just for 3 days with the kids. According to her my son has always been "difficult" and her are "Lovely".
Question is have i trouble coming , am i mad doing this holiday or will it be ok. ??
Who knows.!
Any thoughts or opinions please.
Dont all tick me off at once booking this short hol !!!!

Do you enjoy your sister's company generally and will the holiday be a chance to enjoy eachother again?

If you feel the relationship is too unbalanced then it would be a waste of time and effort in my opinion

Yes, i do normally enjoy her company. She is quite serious, not a crazy barrell of laughs though. I am worried bout my sons behaviour because he has been assessed and we think he has somthing like mild ADHD, so he can be quite wilful and difficult at times. Just dont want her to make comments and make me feel uncomfortable.
Only time will tell .

It's only three days. If it gets too much you can always leave early can't you?

Forewarn your sister about your son's likely behaviour and how you intend to deal with it away from home. Remind your sister it's his holiday too. I would go if you think it will be stress free!

If your sister is quite a serious person you might be able to get through to her if you explain that DS is having tests and it's very possible he has a medical condition; at the moment he requires a different style of parenting and more support, and give her an idea of what are the parameters of his behaviour - ie, that he might never be her idea of 'good'. If you put it in this context she might be less likely to label him a 'nightmare' and be more patient, and/or leave the parenting of him to you. Also if you give her an honest picture of what he is like on an average day, it gives her the option to pull out if she doesn't feel it would make a holiday for her! so pressure off you, kind of thing.

Don't know how old your son is but my advice: teach him to dismiss unreasonable criticism, ie teach him some age-appropriate assertiveness & self-confidence. As long as he sees you backing him up (soundly but non-aggressively), it'll do him the world of good

It might even do your sister a bit of good, too. Have a nice time!

Thankyou guys for your really helpful supportive comments.
xxxx

Also i will ask my sister to be patient with my 9 yr old Ds . She can make harsh comments about him. She already knows my son can be difficult...just dont need her waspy judgemental remarks. ! Yes, its very true OMAOMA she needs to know that he does need more support and praise when he does something good. Which is what i do at home and he responds really well to that. Its tough cos hers are angelic boys (3, and 6 yrs) . Hopefully though they wont be too perfect on the holiday ! Which children can be good anyway all the time ?