If your husband suddenly looked up an ex on FB and sent a friend request to her....

[bintofbohemia]

after never having had any contact with any exes in all of the years you'd known him, would you be concerned?

I trust him completely - but I am a little bit as to why he would suddenly do this. I have exes on my FB but there's always been a continuity of friendship there, I haven't suddenly sought them out.

Should add, I wasn't snooping, as such, he left his FB page up on my computer account and I thought it was mine. But I don't know how to broach it, or whether to bother really.

I wouldn't be happy tbh, but that would be hypocritical of me because I've added exes on facebook, exes I haven't really been in touch with for ages. I don't fancy them at all, but I think it's nice to say hello and see what they're up to. I'm sure it's nothing.

Wahay, cheek of him eh!!

Maybe he's not as comfortable with your ex contact as you think? And this is his 'huh, see how she likes it eh'

I think it's fine. No problem. You have to trust him and if you don't - well, that's another issue.

I'm inclined to agree with CelticBanshee.
Is it possible he's not really that comfortable with you being in contact with your exes on FB?

Everybody likes to have a nosy at exe's pics,etc but, adding them as friends opens a whole can if worms. Insecurity; reigniting a past affair; jealousy,etc.
Not worth it in my book. Always remember they are an ex for a reason!

Why if Op's dh has never had ex's on his facebook before, then why now? i think he has added her and looked her up for a reason.

Ok. We've had a barny discussion - he says a mutual friend told him she was on there and he says he was curious and wanted to know if she was in touch with some friends from uni he's lost contact with. He said he added her because her profile was totally blocked, and he was curious.

I believe him, and I do trust him, (because i've been with people who weren't trustworthy and he's nothing like them) but am just pissed off, and a bit that he's never been curious about his other exes, just this one. And the fact that he told me he wasn't on touch with anyone a while back, so it was true then and it's just my fault for not asking for updates, or sommat.

actually that does sound relatively reasonable, bint - might have to let it go then, sorry!

Its a grey area.. He probably did it innocently. If it bothers you it shouldn't bother him to remove her.

thumbwitch - the fox hunting thing is sort of irrelevant, but I have always been massively anti-hunting and it's sort of like finding out your husband used to shag a BNP party member, IYSWIM.

Thank you everyone for talking me through this. Good to know I wasn't just totally going off on one for no reason. I just get really pissed off when I get lied too, it really bothers me.

I wouldn't worry, I think most people only really talk to about 10% of their 'friends' on facebook. If you trusted him before no reason you shouldn't now. I'd be more annoyed he wants to be friends with someone who fox hunts!

I do totally believe what he's saying, and will let it go. I just can't instantly do it unfortunately, takes me a while to come down. Hopefully I'll be less grumpy by the time he comes home. He has said he will remove the request and he was pretty appalled about the fox hunting thing himself.

thats very good of him to remove it for you bint really think you two are fine x

I look at me exes' photos and thank the sweet lord that I got away

Thanks. He is a goodun really. (Just obviously used to have very poor judgement!)

Good, im glad i was wrong.

Feel sorry for my OH.