Please Help!

[CincinnatiBlues]

I need to know where you can get help and support if you have been sexually assualted but have not reported it to the Police.

If I contact Rape Crisis or Womans Aid will they insist I contact the Police, or will they contact the Police without my consent?

I have name changed for this so please don't out me if you recognise me.

I am staying with my friend and using her laptop, I haven't told her what has happened. I don't want to look at anything online that might leave a trace on her computer.

I am so ashamed and dirty, I want to scratch my own skin off. I am so stupid to let this happen to me. I'm scared and I don't know what to do or where to turn. It just hurts so much, the pain and I feel like I'm going to be sick.

No, they won't. It is your choice whether to inform the police or not. Do phone one of the helplines.

You are not stupid. Do you feel you want to talk on here? I am sure there will be a few people around to listen. Are you okay?

If you are using the new Internet Explorer or Firefox or Google Chrome, they all have a "stealth mode" which will cover your tracks.

No, they won't. It may be hard to get through to a helpline this time on a Saturday night, but please try. Wait on hold if you have to.

Don't have any alcohol, get a cup of tea or something. Don't change or wash. It is NOT YOUR FAULT. You deserve help & support, make some calls.

Look at Tools at the top of the browser window. Does it have "private browsing"?

Private browsing mode BTW -

Firefox: Click Tools, then Start private browsing
Chrome: Click the spanner symbol, then New Incognito window

IE will be similar, sorry can't check what it is. Probably under "Tools" as well.

And then also if you go through "Tools" you should be able to open the history for today and delete just the page with this thread on if you want to as well.

I have already changed and washed, it happened last night, the middle of the night. I just had to get through the day, to keep going for my kids, my friend thinks I'm here because my boiler is broken, another lie, i feel so guilty lying to her she would be so upset if she knew the truth

this is not the first time

I can't find Private Browsing

I will ring the helplines tomorrow

Oh, heck. Poor you. Are you staying with friend through tomorrow, as well?

Women's Aid helpline: 0808 2000 247

Rape Crisis national helpline:
12-12.30 and 7-9.30pm
0808 802 9999

Samaritans: 08457 909090 (24 hrs)

i don't know, i just waited til he went out, took my kids and left

she will let me stay but he will create about me not taking the kids back, thats when the threats will start

Thank you.

Jeez, what a foul situation. I don't know if you've used those helplines before, but it sounds like you'd really benefit from a long chat with Womens Aid. Just for now, Samaritans are great at helping you feel more grounded.

You know best of course, but please give a little more thought to telling your friend. Airing the crap can help (as long as you trust the person you tell). Please do ring Womens Aid anyway, for support.

I'm very sorry you're going through this. It's so, so wrong. Take care and let us know how you get on - remember your safety, and your children's, is far more important than his temper!

I know, thank you again.

I'm in the process of leaving, I think that is what sparked this latest attack, he has not assualted me sexually for a long time. I think it's purely about power and control.

I know I need help but I find it so difficult to ask or accept.

Thank you Grace, I've seen you post on here before and I appreciate you taking the time to answer and help me.

I will try to rest now, I think I will need my strength tomorrow.

You will Well done for making the break - and, yes, this is why he's upped the ante

Snuggle up and sleep. All the best.