MIL question?

[brainpopping]

I have my MIL living us and whilst I do think she's great she can be a bit too much to cope with at times... I have had a couple of tantrums and sulked . At times I do feel crowded (is it just me?)She is a great help with wife and son at home when I'm at work so I feel I'm being a tad selfish & unsympathetic towards my wife when I say "I can't take it anymore!". My wife and I are looking at moving to another area. The house move will mean a new start for my wife, making friends etc, the move will take us about 1 hr away from present home area. But the opportunity for a better quality of life, countryside/seaside, for us & our son is something we consider to be of the utmost importance.
My question is should I suggest MIL gets her own place or will this create further unrest within the family. I am aware I could come across as being intolerant when I'm not. I just feel I want/need space with my wife and son. Any advice?

It isn`t going to get better, so address it now and use this opportunity. Otherwise it will wear you down. Someone will get hurt, but you are hurting now. You need your space in a marriage. She could live very close and still have an important role within the family.

Hi,

You are not being unreasonable here.

Why is your MIL living with you all (health problems?). Whose idea was it originally to have her move in with you as a family?. How does your wife feel about all this?.

Was this ever properly talked between you and your wife before MIL moved in?.

Sorry for all the questions but some more background would be helpful.

definitely get her a place of her own, nearby if you have to.

you married your wife, not your mil.

Would you consider a granny flat in your new place?

I think parents living with a couple rarely work well but this is a discussion best had before she moves in.
If you aren't happy then discuss it with your wife. If you said OK a few years ago and are now changing your mind she may be annoyed, but you could argue that you've tried it and hate it. If on the other hand it's one of those situations where she came for a week and never left then you could easily argue enough is enough.
If she's a great help with wife and son then I presume she would be able to live alone and isn't a frail old dear in need of TLC.

you are not being unreasonable at all - could you get a place with a granny flat so she and you have your own space?

I quite like the semi-detached idea - eg in laws live down the road or in a granny flat. Under the same roof would be impossible for me I'm afraid.