Anyone married to a much younger man with one child?

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Yes.

not married but live with much younger man and 1 child

why?

A friend is and she is having worries about it lasting.

I know the H has strayed both physically and emotionally but haven't told her though I suspect she knows. He cheated years before they were married with the same woman he has been emotionally cheating with lately.

Oh god. Well the age gap isn't necessarily the issue here. I bet she does know about the past stuff. Does she know he is in contact with the OW again?

No.

She knows about the cheating from years ago and has never forgotten it. If she knew he had been in touch with her again he thinks she would leave but I don't think she would. I know both of them so it makes it awkward for me.

hmm.. I'd want to know if I was her, especially if nothing has happened yet.

But she will find out anyway - it rarely goes unnoticed.

My dh is 10 years younger than me, we have been together nearly 13 years and we have an 8 year old son.
We have a really strong, trusting relationship. We have been through all kinds of emotional upheaval in the years we have been together, BIL's suicide, multiple miscarriages, death of my father, redundancy, to name a few! But we are still together and completely committed to each other.

After all, age is just a number,

Jofins

I really don't think the age gap is the issue - enough people cheat on partners who are the same age or younger

He is 38, not exactly sure about her but quite a few years older.

Yes, the OW is the same age as him.

I live with a man 13 years younger than me, we have a 2 year old ds. I trust him completely. Age isn't the problem here - if he cheated years ago, its not to do with her getting older, more to do with him being a twat.

I think he knows the OW still has feelings but he has talked about leaving his W when their son is older, for the OW. He has cheated twice, once before and once after the marriage. If the OW wasn't around I am sure he would behave. He isn't 100& happily married but he won't leave because of the child.

I don't want to know all this as I know them both but for some reason he talks more to me about stuff like this than she does. TBH I am trying to back off a bit.

Do you think I should tell him to tell her or I will, even though it appears to be over with the OW?

I suspect he is staying as he was devastated by his parents divorce when he was 17/18.

The child is 8.

It is.

I admire him staying for the child but the W hasn't been well and I am wondering what is going on tbh.