I am a 28 year old woman with a 5 year old daughter, I have been with my husband 11 and half years, married for nearly 4.
My husband is a nice man, an extremely good dad but I have decided I want us to separate. I met him when I was just turning 17 and I feel we have completely grown apart, I feel like I am his mother at times and am just basically very unhappy?..i have felt like this for a few years now and over the last few weeks have come to the decision that it isnt working for many reasons and we need to move on.
But how do you tell someone this??? This is the thing I am most worried about, how do you tell someone your unhappy and not in love with them anymore? My husband doesn?t really see his family and has few friends, mainly because he doesn?t make an effort, with them or me?.i worry that he will be on his own and lonely, and I don?t want to hurt him, I don?t hate him but im not in love with him anymore and I need to move on for myself to be happy??We have had problems in the past and when I try to discuss them with him I don?t get an adult conversation, he will just say yes when I pause or listen and then 2 seconds later mention something about football for example, I don?t know how I am meant to have a chat with him when he doesn?t listen, doesn?t seem to be interested. Back in November he moved out for a week (first time we have ever not lived together) as he done something that really hurt me, I agreed for him to come back mainly for my daughters sake but he promised he would make more of an effort and he did for a day or to!!!!!!!! I cant forget what he did, and I feel this has contributed to my decision
I am worried about where we will live, My house is in negative equity so I cant sell it, I cant afford it on my own, in fact we cant afford it together and decided to let the bank take it off us?.i know if im on my own and the house gets repossessed the council will help house me and I know eventually we would be ok but its all the worry and stress until then, my parents will help but they own a pub that plays loud music at weekends so my daughter cant stay there then!
Im just scared, I know deep down it?s the right decision but doing it scares the hell out of me
Does anyone have any advice???????
Thank you!!!