spice it up!!!

[Janbo25]

anyone got any ideas on how to spice up sex life after having ds???

[Lonelymum]

Spend some time away from each other and respond positively to your feelings when you are reunited - that should do it for you. It did for me when dh came back from a week long trip last Friday.

[Janbo25]

haha lizzy thats just typical was it planned? did you just make time for ech other?

[Janbo25]

dh was suppossed to work away the other week but was cancelled, we are however due to go on holiday in a few weeks, so you know what sun, sea, sand and lashings of alcohol do!

[Lizzylou]

It was our first month of trying (and we did try lots! ), we just started going to bed earlier, the weather was warmer, DS was sleeping later.....

[Janbo25]

ds is sleeping now but dh working lol!

[novadandypowder]

maybe some erotic text messages during the day, saying what you're going to get up to when he gets home from work, that way you know it's coming (no pun intended) and you've got the day to prepare for it

[Janbo25]

haha nice joke! watched sex inspectors the other night and they recommended a vibratot controlled via text message which looked quite good

[sweetmonkey]

I saw that prog too, although not sure i would want someone videoing me having sex and also by the heat camera thing

yuk

[Janbo25]

no must admit not sure i would like it but the device idea did sound quite good don't you think?

[triceratops]

Get a babysitter and go out and do it in the car. Guarunteed no interuptions from small people.

[novadandypowder]

rofl!!!

re-live those teenage days!

[Janbo25]

i remember doing that a lot and the thought of getting caught was such a thrill, not sure where we would go though now lol

[LilacLotus]

our sex life got back on track when we started trying for a new baby. DP's sex drive went from nothing to how it was when we first together. he told me "sex is more fun when it has a purpose".

[Janbo25]

blimey you may end up with lots of children then!!!

[sweetmonkey]

i thought the device was a really good idea. I would be way to embarrassed to go on tv and use it though

[Janbo25]

i am sure i most have lost some confidence i would do all these things before ds now i feel all shy!

[sweetmonkey]

im sure you will be fine. just take time out for the two of you. get a takeaway bottle of wine,light some candles , relax and have a laugh together

i did an indoor picnic a little while ago which was fun, as it had finger food that you could feed each other

[novadandypowder]

a couple of glasses of champagne and the shyness will melt away.

i find it really funny that people who have been together for a while can be shy about things of a sexual nature - my DH still gets really bashful about asking for certain things, and i clam up when it comes to dirty talk, i always feel really silly.

[Janbo25]

i wonder where you can get them devices from??? some friends suggested "getting together" with us not sure whether to take them up on it?

[novadandypowder]

hmm, i think it gets bit tricky when it involves 'friends'. If they are people you can take or leave fair enough, but if they are good friends I would probably be cautious. I would also make sure you are happy with how things are between you and DH/P first, and don't use it as a tool for getting things up and running again. You could always use the idea as a way of getting some fantasy talk going, so you get the fun without any of the risk.

[Janbo25]

yes i agree, they've suggested perhaps using webcams first?

[biglips]

last saturday, we was supposed to have a romanctic meal for 2 in the 2nd living room and leave 10 months old baba in her playpen to play... as soon we sat down, baba started to scream as she was hungry so ended up having romantic meal for 3!!.. finished the meal and sat down to watch a movie, so we decided to put baba in her cot as she can quite happily play in her cot. Hoping to get down on it!!, baba decided half way thru the movie to scream and to throw up (she hadnt been well last week), bought her down to calm her down but she ended up throwing up for the rest of the nite and no hanky panky for me too .....

atm only doing quickies as thats all the engery ive got!

[Janbo25]

sounds very familiar biglips lol

[novadandypowder]

Again my only urge would be to make sure you and your DH/P are completely happy with just the two of you first. Completely happy.

If you do decide on anything that introduces anyone else into your private and emotional space, make sure you have a set of rules and boundaries that you are happy with.