ANYONE GO OFF SEX AFTER A BABY???

[glasgowmandy]

im at a loose end, my poor hubby is gettin neglected, i have a 7 month old and we are lucky to have sex once a week, we alwasy had a very very healthy sex life, but im just not interested anymore, im so tired and so drained and he just pests me all the time, is this normal?? does your libido come back???xx

Once a week is pretty good! We've got it down to once a month now... Used to be great, but post kids things do seem to slow down. DH is the same so that's a relief!

yeah i know its probably normal, honestly my main concern is other half is going to get it elsewhere, he has a very high sex drive! so i try to keep him happy even if i cant be bothered, just wish i felt the same as i used to x

I admire your devotion but that is one way to get fed up and resentful towards your husband. When you've had a new baby there is so much to get used to. You're both pretty knackered and things take a while to go back to normal. He needs to be a bit more understanding.

Mind you, there is a theory that if you pretend to enjoy yourself that eventually you'll find you are enjoying yourself...

lol, actually once we get started i do enjoy it, its getting the motivation to start!! i obviously want t o keep my husband happy, in all areas!! but he isnt so understanding somtimes.. example...(this be a bit crude) .. one day olivia my little one was having a bad morning, she had a cold and wasnt coping with it so well, i wasn running about with her trying to get washings etc done, totally knackered after being up all night with her, i hadnt even had time for a wash and he came home at lunch time, and asked for "head"!!! i went mad and told himto bugger off and he stormed out in a mood! i was so upset, he didnt have any repect for how i was feeling, and he just dosnt get that ima busy woman and dont spend all my time pleasing him sexual needs when i dont even get time to do anything for myself! x

I am 8 mths PG and find my Oh pestering me daily , I love him dearly , but apart from being tired , I just don't feel too sexy a lot of the time. I love the fact that he can't get enough of my new shape but..... why doesn't he get that I am not rejecting him, I just can't perform acrobatics and 2 mins of jiggy to satisfy him is not what I signed up for.It's really difficult to try to make him understand, and the sad thing is, it will get worse before it gets better, and I am scared he will look elsewhere- any advice ladies?

once a week = lots! But i have two children. And thrush.

im exactly the same lilysmemo, most of the time i give into him, because im so scared he will go elsewhere and cheat on me, but deap down i know he would never do that to me, but we still worry huh! i found actually that the more he didnt want me, and i told him to back off and let me come to him, the more he sorta rejected me(weird i know) the more i tended to want him, but didnt alwasy work, i enjoyed more having some quality time togther to get me in the mood, having a bth or shower together or most of the time when i have a drink im all over him lol, but im told it can take up to a year for your libido to return to normal, so i suppose its justa waiting game x

Bloody hell once a week!! After my first baby it took nearly 9 months for me to feel able, physically and emotionally to reconnect with my man. Luckily he is a rarity in the male lands and was nothing but supportive and just kept telling me my groove would come back eventually and it did.

aww your lucky your man was supportive, mine just feels so hard done by!! i had a section and i still have a bit of pain and dont really feel like it much but he dosnt seem to get that!!