A bit of background .... DH & I have been together 16 years, we have 4 DC, 14, 10, 8, 3, the older two DC are girls and the younger DC are boys. I am a SAHM.
My DH has recently started his own business with a friend from a previous job whom he kept in touch with.
I agreed when we first discussed it with obvious concerns, money being the main one if I'm honest, we have never had a lot of money, but also time with the family was another of my concern's, as when we first were together as a couple with our first DD, he worked horrendous hours just to make ends meet, during the more recent years he has been not too bad, but with periods of long hours, no days off, etc, where I have then had a talk, (moan), and he has tried to make more family time.
BUT it is as I feared, he's never here, he has just done a fortnight without a day off, 7-5pm, from January 2010 for 2 months 7 days a week, then from march-ish until 2 weeks ago just a Sunday off, I have done everything, housework, kids, homework, gardening, visiting relatives, bills, shopping, etc, etc.
YES he is earning great money, (we've never been so well off), but I'm missing, him, feel lonely, isolated, resentful ....
I have tried to tell him how I feel and all I get is well think of the money, but I'm not materialistic at all, yes it's been nice to treat the kids to new stuff, I've taken them out over Easter to Zoo's, days out, and I've never had the money to do this before, but we want him here.
Even the neighbours are noticing, I was cutting the grass Sunday just gone, and the lady next door asked me what I was doing, cutting the grass, surely DH should be doing it, don't you have enough on your plate with the 4 DC, etc, etc. I couldn't really answer her, I got all upset :-(
please any advice????