I am really down, again, as I just can't stop thinking about what happened!! Let me explain-i'll try to be brief.
Back in March 2003 I was told that my dh and best friend at the time (and she is his sister-in-law ) were having an affair(my father-in-law and his wife told me! They indicated it had been going for months, that they had had sex and she was getting too serious so my dh had decided to end it!)We had been going through a rough patch, so it all seemed to add up and i was devastated. I went mental, changed the locks, took out an injunction and refused to see him. We have been together since we were 16, had 2 kids at this time and had broken up quite a few times over the years, but always worked things out and got back together.
I thought it was over for good this time. Eventually I agreed to speak to him. His version of events were, that at his 30th party, she had snogged him?! Then she kept phoning him and wanting to meet. After a few meetings he had decided that he didn't want to take it any further and had decided to not see her any more!! He said there had only been 1 drunken kiss.It was having some life crisis(turning 30?) and loved the attention!
His dad is a very jealous man and has caused lots of family rifts over the years. BUT my husband was his dads the golden boy-he has 6 siblings, I don't know if his dad would have made up such a lie.
Three weeks after I had found out, I found out that I was pregnant! Totally unplanned and totally shocked. After a lot of heart ache, we decided to get back together.
When i was 6 months pegnant i saw her in a market.We had a big row and i slapped her round the face-she slapped me back!. We were with family so we were seperated and sent different ways.
Since 2003,my dh hasn't spoken to his father and says he never will again! We haven't seen his brother or HER-they used to live locally but have now moved about 80 miles away. I never want to see HER again.
Over 2 years later, my husband just refuses to talk about it nowadays and still sticks to his simple explanation. I am getting depressed about it again. It doesn't hurt as bad as it did, but I feel that it never got dealt with.I still want to hurt her!I KNOW that it wasn't all her, but she has told family that it was my dh doing all the chasing. This isn't true so I think it was probably 50/50(Looking back i remeber lots of wierd situations that she created)
EVERY time he goes out I think he's at it again. How can I let it go, I'm back at the stage of checking up where he is, checking itemised phone bills and constantly worrying he will do it again!Will I force him into doing it??? Any ideas that might help???