Quick query for anyone who has used online dating sites recently (or has a friend who uses them)

[SolidGoldBrass]

How censored/uncensored are they? Basically if a person were to state their sexual preferences in their ad, would they get a clip round the ear and their profile pulled?

Would depend on the kind of site it was wouldn't it?

Gay male friends using Gaydar - one of the questions asked on the profile form is top or bottom/cut or uncut etc but then contrast that with Mysinglefriend and I think any mention of S&M/swinging and it might get pulled.

I'd have a browse of the other profiles (men and women) and take a view based on that.

I know someone who used to be on one of those quick fling/up for a shag sites and it seemed to me to be pretty uncensored (he had the good grace to hide his profile pic of his nob while taking me on a tour of the site!) so can't see why you wouldn't state sexual preferences on that because otherwise what would be the point?

Most seem to accept absolute clarity regarding sexual preferences it saves a lot of messing around. I should imagine.

On plentyoffish where I met my OH, one of the very first questions is your own sex, and what sex you are looking for, i.e. woman seeking man, man seeking man etc.

Oherwise how can the system show you appropriate ads? If you are a gay man, you don't want to see ads of straight men, or women, as that's a waste of time.

Or do you mean something other than orientation, when you say sexual preferences?

I did actually have a look on Plentyoffish (which I should have done before starting this thread really instead of beinga lazyarse) and they don't seem to mind people posting ads to look for spankers, spankees, tranny maids etc...

watch out.....my ex is on plenty of fish.....and he has lied in his profile!!

his probation team have assessed him as a high risk to women,med-high risk to children and that he 'targets' single mothers!!
social services dont want him living with women with children as he's violent. but he's on there....looking

TBB: Thank you for your concern, I'm just donig some research for an article I'm writing and am not going to go on any dates or meet any fraeks people or even set up a profile.
That's worrying about your XP but I suppose there are limits to how much his behaviour can be controlled if he's served his time for past offences - but would have thought that there might be an ASBO or something to prohibit him from online dating.

no,no asbo for that.....i dont know why,but its a worry.

he's not going to present himself as having problems (personality disorder) as nobody would 'date' him i guess!!

good luck with the article!

Don't know if this will help or not but Match.com moderate anything you write on your profile before allowing it to be published.

could be tested easily enough by writing a filthy match profile ...

Feck, that took forever (writing the match profile). Luckily I have this wonderful photo of me cross-dressed with fake moustache and uploaded that, and put in the ad that I was into 'gender boundary blurring' - might get a whole other feature out of that...

SGB is it just mainstream dating sites you are interested in or the so called adult ones?

SGB Surely you have heard of Adult Friend Finder?

You will find all sorts on there.

And then quite a few of the swinging sites have single women looking for what you have suggested. I guess looking to fulfill those desires with another couple rather than a fellow spanker etc but those sorts of ads do exist. There are also TVs looking for similar.

Or there are Yahoo Groups for all sorts of meets too.

Haha, Match.com turned me down, so at least I can claim that some of the straights sites are still tightarsed about wierdness.

My dad put a picture of himself topless on match.com and it got censored.

He met a few women who were boasting about their blowjobbing abilities on there though...

SGB Have you seen this? Might be interesting

BBM, I've just shown DH that link, his face was a picture

He thinks MN is the font of all depravity.

BBM: Thanks but am fully booked for phone work just now . And anyway, that site appears to want pix (though I wouldn't be AT ALL surprisedif it turned out they said, oh no dear, don't worry, we'll assign you some stock shots).

Do men actually believe they are
wanking talking to women who look even remotely like the pictures on that site?

I can just imagine some old granny sitting there picking her teeth while saying all kinds of filth!

Well Mal, some of them appear to believe it, some simply don't care as it's all a bit of fun to them and some are oddly hostile ('I bet you're an ugly fat cow really and that picture isn't you at all' - to which my response has been look, mate, no one is forcing you to call are they?If you don't want to play nicely, piss off.)
I would say in most cases it's a similar sort of suspension of disbelief as Lottery players or people who join a dating agency that's supposed to be for 'beautiful sexy people only' when they themselves are fairly munterish.

I daren't show my DH the link, I won't see him for hours as he clicks on every link, checking them all out .

I once applied for one of these jobs and it did strike me as odd that they guys would have no idea what I actually looked like. But then I guess that fits in with the fantasy that is going on in their heads.

Or that I would actually sitting at home knitting waiting for the next call to come in.

Have to say it all fascinates me. BUt that is a whole different thread.