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Really sorry to bring young adult confusion here, but how to handle this

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ciaobellaxx · 10/05/2010 18:56

I swear I'm not a troll, I'm sorry for posting on a parenting forum when I'm not one, I mostly like checking out cooking tips, money, AIBU etc... but if you can help a 21 yo with some advice, it would be heaps appreciated.
My guy and I have been together for 5 months. We're from different countries, I met him travelling in his and we moved in together for a month, I met his family, had a great time. So we're doing the long distance thing, everything seems to have happened very quickly. Sometimes his internet gets cut off, so he asks me to check his email and read it to him over the phone. My browser automatically saves passwords, so today when I went to check my email, it came signed in to his account. Hope this is enough background.

Anyway, so I found out yesterday he'd sent a pic of himself in his underwear in a sexually suggestive picture to two other girls - wtf? I don't know if they're friends or ex-gfs.

My question is, would you bring this up with him? Is it worth splitting up with him? I know he would be livid if the shoe was on the other foot. But I know I was wrong to go through his emails since I didn't have any right to look at them yesterday.

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EricNorthmansmistress · 11/05/2010 12:49

Ciaobellaxx

I had a LDR with DH for many many months. We ended up married and him living here but he does have to spend time in his home country without me sometimes.

I had to trust him 100% and vice versa. Our relationship would never have worked if we didn't trust each other implicitly. Of course we could have been cheating all over the place but the first hint that he was would have got me breaking it off. It's such a fundamental tenet of a LDR that you are trustworthy. I know you don't know if he has cheated but sending sexy pics to ladies = inappropriate and no sense of boundaries IMO. I would ditch him.

ciaobellaxx · 11/05/2010 22:46

Thanks for all the advice, everyone pretty much confirmed what I knew deep down. If I have to cut my losses, glad it's only after 5 months.

For the curious- He's from Colombia, I'm Aussie but living in Mexico.

The pic was of him holding a baguette up to his crotch, and doing fake sultry eyes at the camera. Haha, just writing it makes me cringe, sounds dump-worthy.

I can believe that they were just friends and trust that he's not cheating, but his dodgy judgement and immaturity are dealbreakers.

To those who predicted he'd get annoyed about the snooping - he only made a brief reference to it, before I explained about my browser automatically saving passwords. But in one email, he turned the tables on me and got annoyed that I had left up photos of my ex on facebook... photos almost 2 years old that I'd forgotten about. Then got another email this morning v. apologetic, but too damn late.

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AnyFucker · 12/05/2010 07:15

good girl...hang on to your dignity x

motherlovebone · 12/05/2010 10:08

hold out for the right guy, it aint him!

well done x

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