because clearly I'm getting it all wrong.
I'm a late night person. I'm very productive at night. However I realise that it is my responsibility to get to bed at a sensible time. DH claims he is a morning person.
At the w'end we take it in turns to have a lie-in. DS wakes anytime between 4:20 and 5:20 . Saturday dh gets up and Sunday I get up. This saturday he got up at 4:45 then made me get up at 8 because he was too tired. He went back to bed until 11 ish. Then he went to bed at 7:15 after the dc went to bed. Then Sunday morning I got up with ds at 5 ish. DH got up at 8:20 after 15 hours sleep.
Last night he went out for a drink with the husbands of some friends of mine, all of whom do a LOT more than my dh. So this morning when he offered to get up with ds at 5:20 I thought it may have rubbed off on him. At 7 I got up and tried to have a shower, but struggled because dh didn't want to look after ds anymore. Basically he was furious with me, apparently I am running him in to the ground. Something has to give.
Apparently I get everything I want, I have recently started a course (the first thing I have done apart from looking after the dc since the first was born 4 1/2 years ago) and he has mentioned many times how spoit I am being able to do it.
I stopped bf ds about a month ago, so before then dh never ever got up before 6 at the very earliest, normally after 7, because I would be lying in bed desperately trying to bf ds back to sleep.
I get fed up with the misrepresentation of my role. DH says I do nothing, which is upsetting, and obviously not true at all. He leaves for work between 7 and 8 am and NEVER comes home before the dc are in bed. He can't cook, he doesn't do laundry, and I don't expect him to. He gets fed up holding ds at the weekend, and makes things worse by getting cross with ds for crying when he holds him etc etc.
Oh grrr, I could go on forever about how selfish he is etc etc, but basically I need a strategy to reduce the levels of conflict. At the moment I'm guessing that my only option is doing everything all week long and expecting a lie-in on Saturdays? Guess it's fair enough as he works long hours, but god, it's knackering.