Help me explain to DH about porn please

[ChrisBigginsFagHag]

Regular-ish poster here and whilst I often dishout out the advice I need some now.

My DH has a habit of looking at porn on the internet. I knew about this before I met him but the amount of time now is really getting to me.

And what gets to me more than anything is how it makes me feel because they are all gorgeous / skinny / pert tits / flat stomachs and no stretch marks.

I am overweight, middle-aged, had four kids and don't have a Brazillian.

So this is not about the porn it is about how it makes me feel shit.

How do I get that across to him because quite honestly this is destroying me.

Does he access this stuff when your DC are around? Does he delete his internet history and stuff so the DC don't know what he's looking at?

I agree with you OP, and if my DH was doing this 4 hours a day then I'd feel 100% the same as you.

I'm just wondering - does he see porn as just another source of entertainment, like watching soaps or a quiz show on TV? Has he become desensitised by what he's actually looking at?

Aside from your feelings of low self-esteem and being sad that your H doesn't seem to be paying you due attention, I'd also be concerned that your DC can access this/ what message he's giving to them.

if my husband did this 4 hours a day i wouldn't be with him.

i don't get that you want him to understand ho wit makes you feel... howsabout he understands the word DIVORCE. or RESPECT. or WORK.