How to help a good friend?

[Ninjacat]

One of my oldest friends is having a very hard time at the moment.
Her mother is in hospital and is not likely to get better (they have read the last rites three times but she's hanging on in there).
Her husband is off work sick and she is having to look after everyone and not looking after herself. To top it off she is a medic so doesn't even get rest at work.

Please if anyone has been in a similar situation could you give me some advice of something I could do to make her load just a little easier?

TIA

Its great that you want to help her. Can you spare anytime to take some pressure off at home? Shopping, washing, etc?

She's probably gonna need you more when it does happen.

Thanks LBHAP I'm on maternity at the moment so I do have time on my hands. Shopping might be a good one as she is finding thinking difficult.

She says house work is the only thing that helps her turn off so I'm not allowed to do that

what I'd really like to do is something that is about looking after her.

How about cooking some meals so she doesn't have to worry about it plus you know she's getting something to eat?

tbh there isn't really much you can do, except be there.

Is her mother in a hospital nearby - could you maybe visit her on a set day each week so your friend knows someone else is keeping her company?

Also, meals a good idea.

Thanks for your replies.
Have decided to cook and stock her freezer so she doesn't have to think about meals.

Unfortunately her mum is too sick for me to visit

You sound like a lovely friend.