My friend was on her first date the other night, late on she rang me...

[Curiousmama]

I'd already rang to make sure she'd got home ok. He'd gone home with her. She'd got drunk even though she was up very early for work...but worse is she rang me back, telling me how happy she was and they were so good together and thanking me for being a great friend...he was only sitting next to her at the time

She was going on like some bunny boiler and all I could think was he must be desperate to get out. Turns out I'm right as he didn't call her.

I was honest with her and said she must've terrified him.

It's such a shame because it sounds like they got on well, had loads to talk about and had a good laugh. I just hope she can learn from this and not be so intense next time? Or maybe he just didn't want anything serious anyway?

I'd have run a mile, and I don't think I'd have even texted her the next day to say why.
(Lucky escape)

Anyway SF I'm not angry with some women. I love women in general and in a ltr with one.

great minds fluff!

Ok I'll only talk about my lentil weaving and yack farm

Oh don't get me started on the danger of it....she's been very very unwise. I did tell her before hand not to take him home or have too much to drink or shall I say advise as she does have to live her own life. I'm just glad she doesn't have kids tbh.

meant Yak of course....

Usually if someone starts a thread it is with constructive advice in mind

I don't see any of that here, just, well for want of a better word, being a bit bitchy about a friend.

I don't think it's very nice, or helpful, for her. And I would be devastated if you were my friend and did this.

and when people post about family members, it's a bit different - you cannot choose your family, so having a bit of a vent is allowed if it enables better relations IRL - but you are supposed to choose your friends, and if they do something that irritates you, have it out or have the grace to treat their problems in confidence - iyswim?

Just my thoughts.

Agree with ConDemNation

What exactly is the point of this thread?

Pat me on the back, I was right, my friend's a twat?

Well OP, what you could do for your friend is help give her interests and hobbies that are not related to either men or alcohol. If she has a minor problem with either, having something else to think about might well fix it.
Hatesponge: I think that's a crock. The man might well have felt he ought to go back to her house to make sure that she got there in one piece but decided that she was too messed up to be worth continuing with (remember that a stranger you have a blind date with doesn't owe you anything beyond common courtesy).

god are nt we all being just a little unkind .......... if he was the right kind of guy for her he would have stuck around to see what she was like when not drunk so nothing lost there. Not sure i would like a friend of mine dishing the dirt quite like this either. Is there no solidarity in sisterhood

I have a friend who is exactly the same. Ive come to the conclusion that she is an adult and I dont give advice. The next day she just tells me not to remind her of what she did/said. Some people cant take a drink very well. With her I think its just going on a date that makes her nervous and then the drink has a very strange affect on her. Its shameful to watch especially when she cant remember anything about the guy she was so full on with and I can give her every personal detail about him because a) Im nosey and like to ask people about themselves and b) I dont get drunk anymore, Ive always been one of those people that remembers every single detail when drunk, not forget it!! When they are putting themselves in dangerous situations it is worrying.