I don't know if any of you will remember my posts last summer when I got involved in a very traumtic affair with a colleague of sorts. It was all so odd and my reaction to it so difficult to explain that I got accused of being a troll ( though those involved eventually accepted I was real)
Anyway at the end of it all I did say I would update on my progress back to sanity when 6 months had elapsed. There was a date at the end of April when X and I both had to be present in connection with work and I wanted to be sure I was totally recovered by then, and ( at the time) to be so glittering and georgeous he would realise he had made a mistake. In fact I'd realised far before then that it was me who had made the mistake.
One of the reasons no one would believe me was that I acurately described him as being physically repulsive.Not sure I believe in magic but it wasn't long after we split up that I realised he really was physically repulsive and found it hard to understand how I'd ever let him put his huge podgy body anywhere near me to begin with. I've been spending lots of time at the gym and out running, bought lots of new clothes and genreally feel a lot better about myself, lost nearly 2 stone now and quite like looking in the mirror.
As everyone says with affairs it does take away from life at home, not supplement it. Once I'd stopped pining and looking out of the window for him all the time I began to feel lots better and things have improved a lot at home. Can't say everything is perfect but it is much better and I do appreciate DH a lot more. Once the scales had fallen from my eyes I realised X was a bit of a sad character - has no real friends, lives in a dump and is really broke, don't know if I mentioned before but he even lied about how many times he had been married (4) His lifestyle choices unfortunately have left him
with some problems and this year he has developed a couple of unpleasant and one life threatening medical conditions.
So, I really was better off out of it.
The whole situation really illustrates how one persons pretty scummy partner can become someone (deluded person's) darling, and how affairs don't last. Happy escape all round. Don't do it girls!