How do I move on?

[frodob]

I left my partner of eight years for a new man last year. AT the time I was 100% convinced it was the right thing to do. I got pregnant within about three months - by accident - and we now have a gorgeous 8 week old boy. Me and my new partner dont always get on really well - we have so many more arguments than I did with my ex; and everytime I argue I start thinking Imade the wrong move and should have stayed with my ex. I always considered myself happy with him and the split came out of the blue. When me and my new partner are getting on well and I am happy then I feel guilty for being happy after causing so much hurt to my ex. Basically I am all over the place. Sometimes i think im still in love with my ex and otherimes i think i cant be otherwise i would never have left and i would have gone running back before things got out of hand with new partner. Regardless of how I feel about my ex though I need to know how to move on - sometimes I think about going back to him even though that obviously cannot happen as ive had a baby with someone else. If anyone has advice on how to move on and get over someone....

hindsight is a wonderful thing isn't it. but the key is to recognise that is past. and wht is past can rarely be undone.

if you are currently unhappy, then you always have the option ofleaving. however you must recognise that this relationship has the added stressof a baby. sleepless nights, priority shifts etc. a huge stress that your previous relationship didn;t have. so you can look back with rose tinted glasses -but it may have been exactly the same under the same circumstances. a baby puts huge stress into your life.

there has definitely been stress on this relationship; from the guilt on my part preventing me being happy plus the preganancy and new mum hormones playing their part. i really need to stop the comparisons. today i even drove past our old house (where he still lives) to try and see ....i dont know what i was trying to see acually

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