How often should us mum's be having sex????

[Hunty]

Am I just strange or do other people (mum's) just not interested in sex? Don't get me wrong love my hubby loads, but I always feel like sex is an effort..that can't be right can it? Having a clear out tonight of all my worries!!!!!!!!

Well yes, there is that - but without being TMI, I have noticed a very big difference already in XP and NM (new man) in that if we have been interrupted (DS waking up etc) and I'm not really in the mood when I get back it's not an issue at all and we just end up talking or watching a DVD or something instead, whereas with XP if we had got interrupted or anything and I hadn't wanted to carry on he'd always expect me to finish him off anyway and I became quite resentful of this. But TBH I think that was just part of the way he was, and one of the reasons why the relationship failed.

oh well thats completely understandable them. Very, very selfish imo and not very respectful. Am only speculating here, so please forgive me, but its nice that your with someone who doesnt make you feel used - that if sex doesnt continue your still worthy of attention ifykwim?, think this type of thing makes us want sex more. When dh used to badger me for it, it used to turn me right off...

Yes exactly BLK - it definitely made NM more attractive in my eyes

Actually that is quite sad, I have never been with anyone before who has respected me, sexually. No wonder I thought I had sex problems!

No wonder is right. I know how that feels and am sorry you've experienced the same. On the upside - maybe the world is making up for it for you with this yummy new hunk?

It varies I guess from person to person and situation

I've had four and its been different each time. This time I'm breastfeeding longer and ds is still in our room as we have no space. I'm exhausted with 4 and rarely sleep in bed so ts not been happening much. We still care about each other and still fancy each other though so I'm not worried. It will come back.
With my others I was pregnant again by this stage (not even planned- twice) so we were (or had been) at it much more.

AS long as you keep the attention there and don't let it become habit then I think its ok. My DH knows its a temporary thing and is ok with that. If he wasn't I would have serious problems with him

Depends who with. Give me certain people on we;re talking on an hourly calender. Others I'm happier with the months thing.

Why oh why should you work at something, feel pressured etc etc into doing something you don't want to!!! How mch effort goes into being a mum and wife and employee!!? Oh and I'm sure housewife. So what if you just want to go to sleep in bed. I really really admire those who are at it, and trust me would love to be like that, but hey if you're not then so what, children will be school age and not depend on you for absoloutley everything soon and all of a sudden you have time for you and hey presto time for your other half!! If you miss it then it's aproblem, if not then just wait till it comes back even if it s years!)

Oh ignore the grammer police...

If your sex drive has gone down I recommend getting pregnant again for bringing it back up