feel like bridget jones - without the distraction of daniel cleaver and whats his name

[singlegirl]

today my theme tune would be all by myself. i would be drinking wine and waving arms about like a mad thing while i sing loudly and hearfelt at an imaginary britains got no talent audience.

this is nothing more than an i feel sorry for myself post.

im, just sick of being single. sick on being on my own with noone who loves me, or flirts with me, or has sex with me, or can bring me milk and chocolate on the way home, or snuggle up to, or even make me a drink.
im pretty sick of having fun and doing things all on my own and everyone thinking im fablous expect im still single.

ive tried internet dating, which is just dire. i go out. i flirt. ive tried being demure and waiting for blokes to make the first move. ive tried making the first move.

just nothing. i had a date for this afternoon that cancelled last min and actually i dont really care as i wasnt excited about meeting him.

For those that might berate me and say dont be so desperate, enjoy your life. be happy and work on yourself. well. i have done all that. i have a better social life than most people. i do things. i get out and about. im attractive, im not shy. i just dont come across men, or anything that i like.

im only young ( ish) and i do not want to be esingle forever. ive been single for 18 months now and it seems like an age.

am between laughing at my patheticness and crying really.

sometimes i have bridge jones moments too!! i'm 36 and have been single just over a year and go from being lonely to being rather happy on my own.

you are just in a rut - and everyone has them whether in a relationship or not.

i am a bit on and off with the internet dating thing....i get guys asking me why i'm single but then i very rarely get a second date - what's all that about?!?! sometimes i like a bit of attention and sometimes can't be arsed with it!

my friends too say i'm lovely, exciting, happy, expect me to be out every night, etc, etc. yes i do have a nice social life, but also have weeks where i don't go out at all!

guess i just wanted to say you aren't on your own!!

do you have dc? can i ask how you split with your ex - ie do you think that might be affecting how you act with men now?

and more importantly - do you (as I do) also have big knickers a la Ms Jones??

i do have one child.
yes, im like you then. sometimes im out all the time then i dont go out for weeks.
sometimes im ok with being on my own and sometimes, like today im not.

i split with ex husband. i ended it. i hadnt loved him for years because of things he did. so ive felt lonely for a lot longer that i have actually been single for if that makes sense.

i would not have wanted to go straight into another relationship, and i know time on my own has been good for me. but im actually a bit sick of it. i look about and people all seem to be in relationships and i dont understand why im not.

ive got a lot to offer someone. im told im attractive. that people have never met anyone like me, that i light up a room and people turn to look at me. that i hold attention and sparkle.

am thinking maybe i sparkle too much.

im ready to be in a relationship now. i want to be. and internet dtaing is rubbish. its just full of liars and timewasters.

i do have big knickers. i just wish i had a daniel cleaver too... then maybe i might not be so pissed off.

sounds very similar (though I have 2 dc) in that i also split with my ex after a long time of feeling lonely within a relationship as we'd grown apart.

not sure if this makes sense but i feel it's better being lonley whilst on my own than it was whilst in a relationship.

you say you sparkle - do you think people (mainly guys) assume that you are taken?

it can be hard when seeing all your friends in lovely relationships - but i always think that not everyone is as happy as they make out behind closed doors. it's also difficult to get out and about as much when you have dc and no so many single friends.

i would suggest maybe joining a gym or salsa class or something? mind you, i've had to cancel my gym due to lack of funds and cos i live in the back of beyond there's no such thing as salsa!!

i find the internet dating a bit hit and miss, have talked to and been on some dates with some nice guys but also with some rather odd guys! i do find that when i was on a paid site rather than a free one, the guys seemed a little less weird!

isn't daniel cleaver the horrid one who cheats on her? you don't want him - mark darcy was the other one, he maybe more your type so aim for him instead!

i think people probably asume im taken. i do generally get chatted up at least once when i go out. but normally im not interested.
maybe im too picky?

i have not got the funds to join a gym and regular babysitting is just a no go. i actually have not got any single friends at all. which probably does not help matters.

i do agree its much better feeling a bit lonely on my own than lonely in a relationship and i do not regrett my decision for a second. but he has moved on and is wtih someone else. and has gained weight and lost hair and is a horrible person.
and im nice and dont cheat and have lost lots of weight and am nice looking and im on my own. childish but there it is.

internet dating is miss and miss i think. ive had strings of dates all of which turned out to be weird. one was very very weird and i ended up falling for him though. and falling for a weird person is never a good thing.

i did join match.com for a month and found it no better than a free site. i think i need to move to london or something.

thats it - mark darcy - why cant i find a bloody mark darcy. i deserve one.

and i miss sex. ive had sex twice in 18 months. thats terrible.
its more than terrible. i love sex.

Do people really get to know each other at gyms? I've been going to my gym for a few years in London and no one ever seems to talk to each other.

Well ill join you. Im a singe mum to a lovely dd (5) and pregnant with twins (long story). Tried internet dating and i seem to bring really good luck to guys. The see me then decided they dont know what they want or their just not looking for anything. Weirdly as of today every 1 of them is now in a happy relationship. So obviously they did know what they wanted and it just wasnt me.

star - yeah. i know. thats what todays guy said. his head space had changed and it wouldnt be fair on me.

people dont talk to people in gyms i dont think.

people dont talk to people anywhere. unless out for a drink. and i never seem to come across my type when im out for a drink.

vicous circle.

added to which i have already met my mr perfect - i just cant have him

Yeah ive met mine 2 and i cant have him either. Just need to stick with being his friend and smiling and giving advice. Should really be happy for him but cant help thinking why not me?

funny how things can turn about so quickly isnt it.

am meeting up with mr perfect next week. He phoned and said he would like to give us a go.

Lucky you. Mine is out on a date