I'm a bit crap really.

[Notdirtyenough]

Went to an Ann Summers party last night and we played a game that meant you got points for doing various things and deducted points for certain things. My score was the lowest by far and I felt that I am really a boring prude who does nothing in bed (which is true and even though I am married I am going through a real dry spell at the moment and its all my doing, not DH's).

It doesn't help that I was brought up by strict GPs who never ever discussed this sort of thing and when I was 15 I was reading a magazine that said sex on the front and my grandad went mad and asked me what I was doing reading things like that.

I have also had some very negative experiences with men when I was younger and sometimes think that I would happily never have sex again.

I feel sorry for my DH.

Oh dear. I would say that your confidence needs a boost, not your capacity for chandelier-swinging. Do cheer up- I'm sure you are fine just the way you are. There is something very alluring about modesty in my opinion.

Aw don't feel bad! I'm sure your DH loves you as you are but if you do want to experiment a little you are at least in a position () where you have a loyal loving DH that you trust.

I have had bad experiences in the bedroom too and have had trouble being confident in bed in te past. There are lots of good threads on here about improving your sex life. Malificence, for example I am sure will be along with lots of tips and enthusiasm.

Also how about some reading material that you can read in private at home? I have a subscription to scarlet magazine which is good (don't worry the postman wouldn't know what he was delivering) has erotic fiction, toy reviews, sex tips, etc.

Thanks aSilverLining that magazine sounds good.

I have just bought some good erotic fiction books so I suppose I may have made a start.

If anyone does have any suggestions, then feel free to share!