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just wondering

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thesunshinesbrightly · 26/04/2010 22:53

Just wondering really, how long into your relationship did you get stop getting that excited,butterfly feeling?

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thesunshinesbrightly · 26/04/2010 22:54

How did that extra get get in there.

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ChickensHaveSinisterMotives · 26/04/2010 22:55

I still get that excited, butterfly feeling thirteen years in. Not every day, obviously, but yep, it still catches me sometimes

Fruitysunshine · 26/04/2010 22:57

Five years on and I look at my husband sometimes and he takes my breath away........not every single day but it does still catch me off guard!

swoon

Rindercella · 26/04/2010 23:02

11 years later after meeting DH, I still get it. Not every day, but when I think about him in a certain way, or catch his eye at a certain time, I get butterflies. I sincerely hope it never goes away.

PrettyFeckinVacant · 26/04/2010 23:05

Right up to finding out he was shagging a 29yr old - about 14 yrs into the marriage.

Didn't feel the same after that.

PrettyFeckinVacant · 26/04/2010 23:06

Are you still feeling it sunshine?

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thesunshinesbrightly · 26/04/2010 23:07

Thankyou for your replies, when did you stop getting it, everytime you seen him? or her?

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KerryMumbles · 26/04/2010 23:08

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ChickensHaveSinisterMotives · 26/04/2010 23:10

Oh, probably around the time we had our first child and had to be a 'team' IYSWIM. We were both too knackered and stressed to feel anything other than relief that the other was there to take over Now that the DC are older, it happens more

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thesunshinesbrightly · 26/04/2010 23:11

Thanks Kerry

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thesunshinesbrightly · 26/04/2010 23:12

Really? see,Ive never felt it before.

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ChickensHaveSinisterMotives · 26/04/2010 23:14

So, you've never felt butterflies with your DH/DP?

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thesunshinesbrightly · 26/04/2010 23:16

Well i do now with current OH, everytime, but never felt it, with partner's before and that makes me feel kinda sad.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 26/04/2010 23:17

And scary at the same time.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 26/04/2010 23:20

FioFio that's what i thought you meant.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 26/04/2010 23:27

Lovely to hear all your replies,and to know i'm not odd because i still get them, not been together long, but in real,i'm classed as odd because i still get excited at the thought of seeing him and because i have never had it before, i actually thought i was odd.

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Shodan · 26/04/2010 23:43

Funnily enough, I'm just starting to get them again. They went AWOL for a while (actually a couple of years) but they're making a comeback now.

I think they went AWOL because we're tired (toddler!) and we've had some stress, but I also think I got into bad habits, taking him for granted a bit.

Now I make positive efforts to Think Nice Thoughts about him and it's working.

The (ahem) sex life is picking up, too.

At bloody last.

WhenwillIfeelnormal · 27/04/2010 00:16

We still get them for eachother - after 28 years. I met him from work recently for a "date" and a series of texts throughout the day sort of built up the suspense....

BertieBotts · 27/04/2010 00:42

Aww, this is a lovely thread. I love having butterflies for someone. Actually in early days of a very slow moving relationship at the moment and every time I think of him I not only get butterflies but also shivers up the spine and all around my waist just where someone would hug you from behind.

I also love your DP's description of man-butterflies, Kerry

ItsGraceAgain · 27/04/2010 11:37

Just to lower the tone ...
... I thought it was butterflies, but it was anxiety!