A quick explanation (I hope).
We have a DD and DC2 on the way.
I think we have always had quite separate lives as well as a very loving one together, however I feel like I am living my life through him as he is out and I very rarely am without being Mummy while DP is out a lot. I always trusted him in the past and felt I was being stupid when I started to question who he was with and who he'd been talking to and what exactly he had been getting up to, then I found out I was pregnant again so surely all of this is due to my hormones right.
Well long story shorter! I accused him of having an affair, which I don't believe if I really think about it seriously. However I have felt like I have needed to keep a bit of an eye on him still. He was out as usual on Saturday and was hungover Sunday as usual even though he had to work all day. Anyway, I just happened to pick up his phone to have a little nose through when I found a message he had sent to a friend saying about his night and basically he had been doing something he shouldn't have. Not an affair but something he knows without question I don't approve of and don't want in my or our childrens lives.
My dilema is that he doesn't know that I know, I found out by invading his privacy, and he of course wouldn't tell me. But should I bring it up? Is it really as serious as I think it is?
He just never looks like he is going to grow up at all. He talks a good talk, but can I trust him on other subjects if I know he has gone behind my back on this?
Please give any advise or opinions.