First day as a single Mum

[lizzyjo]

I never thought it would happen to me but it has. I found out yesterday that my DH is having an affair and I told him to leave. Yesterday I felt relieved and strong-things had not been good for a while-but today I have not stopped crying and don't feel like I ever will.We have 1 DD who has just turned 2 and we would have been married for 3 years in 3 weeks time. Doesn't feel like I've got much to show for my life so far.
Am posting this in the hope that someone who has been through the same thing can offer any advice on how to pick myself up.
Thanks

Thinking of you lizzyjo.
Iwent through all of this 5 years ago. I thought my life had ended and now am very happy.
I think it's all about trust and communication. I felt I had lost these when he told me about the affair and felt he had betrayed his 2 month old daughter.If you think counselling may help his "mid life crisis" in respect of adoption and marriage then give it a go. Going down the road of divorce is a hard one to get off, so only start it if you are 100% sure.
As everyone else has said time is a great healer and even when days are really bad a smile or hug from your dd will make life all ok.
Keep us posted

lizzyjo, I was very hopeful about the counselling but in the end I think, for us, it was a bit of a waste of time. There was no point us sitting, slogging out all sorts of really painful stuff, when he was still continuing to have a relationship with someone else.
In the end he suggested separation and on finding out that he was still, definitely involved with the other woman I agreed that this was the best course of action.
I don't think we will be getting back together now.

Bugsy how are you feeling? Sad ? Relieved in any way?
I look forward to reading happy news from you a bit further down the line.
Here's a big hug from me with very best wishes for your future.

i separated from my dp after 9 years together and i was pregnant with no.3 who was incidentlly unplanned as we were going through a rough time as it was.Mine ds has autism and dp just couldnt deal with him at all which amongst other things was causing the huge problems then when i fell unexpectedly with no.3 he totally didnt take anything to do with the pregnancy not even acknowledging it.i asked him to leave when i was 5 mths preg and have since come on in leaps and bounds,my beautiful dd is now 8 mths old and we recently got back from our first ever holiday abroad in spain me,2 ds and dd and my friend and her dd, he took away the home p.c when he left out of spite as it is a lifeline to ds and because i used it for support from you mumsnetters but as you can see i have recently bought us a new one and am going on my first date of sorts tonight so yes keep your head up high in the words of gloria gaynor you will survive and come out the other side better for it and remember youll always have your kid(s)

hope your date goes well loobie well done you strong person