How would your DH react?

[Kix]

You're having a blazing row, you're both really angry and you begin to approach him. Does he back away or stand where he is? What if you get in his face?

Then, during the row you put your hand over his mouth whilst he's speaking. How does he react then?

Regular but namechanger.

Never been in this situation.
sounds like you have an anger issue and if it were the other way round and he was doing these things to you...he would be ripped to shreds as a bully

He'd take my hand away from his mouth and ask me what the hell I was playing at - then he'd walk away.

Completely hypothetical though - I'd never behave that way.

If I got into DH's face he would probably just stand his ground, If I put my hand on his mouth (which I would never do) I think he would go nuts (verbally I mean-he's never been physical) and would remove my hand.

If I physically tried to stop him from talking I imagine he would move my hand away. Not trying to hurt me but he might accidentally as he is stronger.

We don't tend to get into very shouty (let alone physical) rows as a rule though, so I'm only guessing.

I really don't know. I think he would think I had gone quite mad or was drunk or something.

What happened?

really can't imagine this situation, but what happened and are you ok?

We were arguing and DH got in my face and started shouting at me. I ignored him at first but then shoutd back at him and he put his hand over my face and I lost it and slapped him in the head. He went ballistic and said I was out of order and if Id done it to him (hand over face) he would never have hit out/

Oh I am sorry for you. Fwiw if my dh had done that to me (hand over face) I might well have done exactly the same. Think he has behaved outrageously. Hope you are ok.

I think he's being harsh and unrealistic - a lot of people in that situation would panic and lash out. It sounds like he was being bloody intimidating.

Is this a 'one-off' or has it happened before? Horrible for both of you

When I read your OP, and before reading your further post, I was about to reply 'he would be incandescent if I did that and would shove me away. Probably quite violently'

If my husband did that I would remove his hand/slap/hit at him in a panic.

If I did that to him he would remove my hand & walk away-if he had not already walked away before it got to that.

It wouldn't happen.
If he ever started shouting at me I would leave the room. And if I shouted at him he would do the same.
If he ever started to approach me I would probably leave the house.

that owuld never happen because I don't have blazing rows with people, and I wouldn't put my hand over someone else's mouth while they are speaking.

I'm sorry if you're in this situation and he reacted physically.

Oh dear, just read what happened.

You reacted to him being physical to you, so he was out of order first even though you shouldn't have lashed out in response.

I think most people would react to a hand being put over their mouths wouldn´t they?

Christ.

My DP would be appalled if I did that to him. Squaring up to someone and putting your hand over somneone's mouth is a real sign of agression I think. Horrible.

Poor you OP - of course clouting someone around teh head is a no no but to be honest I am hardly surprised you did when he put his hand over your mouth.

He is unreasonable to behave like that in the first place.

Me and DP argue, but not shouty like this - if he shouted at me I would just leave the room, and be shocked.

Clearly you are both in the wrong.

If he had hit you there would be uproar. It shouldn't be any different because you hit him.

Yes diddl, I agree.

Mind you I would have probably ran off in fright the moment he squared up to me. That really is gorilla behaviour (have been hit in a previous relationship, if anyone was agrgressive like that to me again I would freak out).

"If he had hit you there would be uproar. It shouldn't be any different because you hit him."

It's true but when I think about the size of my husband to me, if he'd have put his hand over my mouth I think I would have lashed out out of pure panic and fright. It isn't however the right thing to do and his behaviour to you was appaling.

Have you spoken to him since you have both calmed down? Has this happened before? Did you feel as though he was going to hurt you?

It wouldn't happen as we don't get blazing row angry with one another. If I did that to him though he would probably grab me and try and snog me to diffuse the situation and we would end up having sex

i would know better than todo anything but stand there - thisis from much experience btw.

dh has never done this but from other experience i can extrapolate - and i think that if i had put my hand over his mouth he would have knocked it away andperhaps pushed me away

ithinkif i had pushed him or slapped himhe would had=ve pushed me.

but i know better than to get into these sorts of fights with abig fella - theres only one loser - me.

so i wouldn't even do it