The man I care about most of all is getting married. Need cheering up.

[dunceinlove]

Have name changed.

He's not marrying me either!
She sounds lovely.
We had a thing in the past. No sex but an intense connection. It didn't work out as I was wounded by an ex and I didn't want to get hurt. I cared about him so much but I just couldn't afford to get close at that time.
he's now marrying his gf Ive been told.
She does sound perfect for him and I am happy for him but also very sad as I do still like him. I don't think I will feel this way about anyone else even though I am sure I will meet a nice guy soon.

I'm a single mum and all my ex boyfriends are settling down with their girlfriends. I just feel really rejected.

oh poor you. i feel for you.
horrible horrible horrible. have some wine, or chocolate, or maybe both and be kind to yourself.

i to have someone like this. if we had met about 6 years ago it would have been perfect but it was all too complicated to work out.
and i too dont think that anyone will ever come close to him.

but i dont regret it.

and neither should you.

Aaw I really feel for you! I have someone in my life too that no one else will ever come close to but that I can't end up with, it is an extremely bittersweet feeling I dread the day he decides to settle down with someone, I will feel utterly bereft. Chocolate and a good cry, then plan some nice things for you that you can look forward to.

So sorry. It hurts loads and I suspect there will always be somewhere inside that does.
But I would say throw yourself into other areas of life and try to be positive and driven about something. It gives the pain a positive outlet rather than eating you up.

Take care of yourself though xx

Ouch, ouch, ouch. That sounds so miserable, I really feel for you. Please don't feel rejected, though. This isn't about you. It's about him, timing, settling down, life's expectations, timing. Did I mention this is about timing?

Wine, chocolate, and friends will make things feel a little better. And believe that there really is someone out there for you who'll be better than this guy. It's just all a matter of time. You sound lovely - it will work out in the end!

I hope you're feeling much better about this soon once the news has sunk in a bit more.

i have really BAD timing!

Thanks all. i am throwing myself into my business plan and i love work atm soo all is not lost!

did you tell him how you felt?

Have you seen the wedding singer?

My 'first love' (age 17) phoned me before he asked his gf to marry him. He said he felt like he should ask my 'permission'! I was already married by that time.

I felt flattered. But also really upset, as I always thought one day we'd get it back together.

I'll always have a soft spot for him but we were too young.

console yourself that most of us disappoint in the end ; so better to savour the sweet fantasy than taste the bitter reality