I think I need a little bit of advice before my marriage is in serious trouble.
I am a regular poster, but have namechanged as I know some MNers in RL & they know my name on here.
Background: Dh & I been together for 12 years, have two dc, 9 & 6.
We've usually enjoyed an active sex life, OK maybe not swinging from the ceilings, but fulfilling and enjoyable & w were both happy. Maybe one week it would be four days in a row, and then none for a week, but it was never a problem, especially when dh worked shifts etc we wouldn't see each other as much.
But for some reason something has changed, for about the last month I hate dh touching me
It's as if he's a fumbling teenager again & he is either too rough with me (when touching) or just seemingly doesn't give a f^ck! I have stopped us in the middle a few times as it's just so mindnumbingly boring.... and then he huffs like a child.
We usually communicate very well, and we usually have a laugh even during sex, but I'm so so frustrated... and I'm sure he is too.
Take last night, I was in bed early (this pisses me off, I said to him after 10pm, "I'm off to shower and bed, you coming up?" He said he was, but I had showered, got into bed, read a chapter of book & he was still glued to some programme on telly. He came to the room, showered, turned on the TV, watched something then tried it on with me! Me, feeling sorry for him as we haven't had sex in a while, let him....but then it got to the stage where it was sore (he was just touching, but I hated it) and I felt numb with the way he was going so I lifted his arm, wrapped it round me & went to sleep... he didn't even ask why
What's happening? Anyone got any advice, barr me sitting him down & sayin, "You have made love to me brilliantly for 16 years, WHY is it shit now?"