How does access work when you live in different countries?

[whatname]

Posted yesterday, with issues about leaving my husband. Main problem is financial. But another problem I have is eventually I would want to go back to my hometown( 250 miles away) and husband would want to go to Australia. How on earth is that going to work with access?
Anyone had any experience with anything similar?

Haven't read your other thread, but the best situation would be if you were both able to negotiate something you were happy with. Given the distance and expense, I would imagine it would probably mean either your husband coming here for a long-ish visit once a year and/or your dcs going there (perhaps for a good chunk of the summer holidays).

Hi
If amicable, I guess that's how it would work.
However, if not amicable, I am thinking more about what a court would do, how would they grant access and if there is a chance that DS would have to go to Australia... because it is a much better place(!)

Nah, unless you're regularly beating up your DS, they're not going to change his place of habitual residence.

One option for a court is to order you to make regular skype calls to keep your DS in touch with his father.

But going in to court, you don't necessarily have to leave it wide open to what the court might decree. Think about the most desirable arrangement for you that does respect the right of your DS and ex to have a relationship and ask for that. Help the court out!

it's making my stomach churn, thinking about it. I'm so sad, but I can't up and go to Australia where I have no-one, and leave all my family here.

whatname, you won't have to up and go to Australia. Your DS is habitually resident here, isn't that right? His life is here and a court is going to want that to continue.

I read your other thread and I'm a bit worried that you're feeling paralyzed with all this anxiety (Australia/finance). You need to get legal advice and I think it will soothe a lot of your fears.

thank you
it's just all very daunting cos H can be very nasty about these things, and it scares me what the future is going to hold.
Realistically I know my son belongs with me in this country with a close family that will love and care for him like no other. Not a father who can only deal with him for a couple of hours at a time, but "wants the best for him"