How would you describe love??

[scarlotti]

Am in relate with dh at the moment and things have been rubbish for quite a while.

Am always asked 'do you love him'? Never sure how to answer really..

So, how would you define love? Not talking lust here, but love that's past the honeymoon bit.
I know what love is in terms of my dc's, but that's totally different right?

Ooh there are lots of different kids

there's the heart stopping, eyelash fluttering kind of love at the beginning

and then there's the long term love that comes after which is harder to define

Not being able to imagine your life without them, putting them and their happiness first, as they do for you.

Wanting to grow old together, enjoying all the time you spend together, being glad when they come home from work.

Love is the stuff that makes the crap OK.

Malificence - I like that description. Would mean my answer is no but I already suspected that anyway. On the plus side, at least I'vegot a good idea of what love in a marriage should be like!

Also, never being afraid to be honest, knowing that they will always support you through the bad times and back you up in any given situation. Knowing that they will never intentionally hurt you and will return your love tenfold.

Malificence - I've never really been supported or backed up by dh. I think that's partly killed off the feelings I had..

I think love is when you get a happy feeling when they walk through the door. When lots of your decisions are guided by what they would like (holidays/supermarket shops/silly jokes).

Love is also putting up with occasional bad moods, etc. because you know that is not them, just something that's happening to them.

Love is wanting to spend the rest of your lives together, knowing that there will be big ups and big downs.