So once again, I need the collective wisdom of the electoral demographic called MNErs.
Some of you will know bits of my history but I'm not on here very much any more, but I really really do cherish the humour and wisdom of you lot. So here goes.
I've been seeing a very beautiful younger man which after the sexlessness and joylessness of my marriage has been a complete revelation, marvel etc. He's recently called time on it, because he wants more from me than I can currently offer - I'm still in the middle of separating, have kids, complex work life, etc - and is seemingly intractable on his decision. This is very hard as I have fallen for him in a huge way. We also work together which makes separating completely much harder. He's due to to leave the country in 6 months, and I'm floored that he's not using that natural break as a break in our relationship, rather than now. He's cooler and cooler with me every time I see him, which is very very hard, and we work closely in a creative team together, and were previously renowned for our brilliant work together. Because of the age difference and the fact that people at work don't know about my marital situation, we have kept it secret, so there's no one I can talk to about this.
I have to continue to see him, and work with him, but I need to retain my dignity and not go through a massive masochistic thing every time I see him. He says he still loves and desires me which is driving me crazy because I can't really understand why we need to call time on it. I don't need judgment calls on the whys and wherefores of what has happened - unless you know the reality of my situation you won't be able to judge - but just advice on remaining a queen/empress/eagle rather than a victim. TIA