you have 7 GC not 1

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Just a rant really just came off the phone from MIL. Talking non stop about my nephew how wonderful he and how well he is doing on and on. Not once did she talk about her other GD (gs sister). Also tried to talk about her other GC (my kids and other GC). But always swayed back to my nephew.

God forbid if anybody else has another child my poor nephew will be drop and the new child number 1.

I treid to talk about other GC

brain working faster than fingers

maybe the GC gets the most face time? So she just knows more about this one, so has more to say about him?

My MIL is like this.

She has 5 dgc - my dds and ds, and BILs 2 ds.

The sun shines out of their bums, as far as I can see. I am fed up listening about how amazing they are (especially as they are a lot younger than all my dcs and what she is describing is normal development which, funnily enough, all my children have done!!!!!)

I smile, nod, stick out my tongue (I'm in Scotland, she's in NI so a lot of this goes on over the phone) and Ignore, Ignore, Ignore.

Hard going though!!!

my mother was like this with DNephew and my girls never got a look in

my MIL is also like this with DH's neices/nephews who live in the same village as them in NI - our girls get a visit if we're 'lucky' twice a year even though there are now direct flights to where we live and when they're here most of their time is spent in Debenhams or reading a paper brought from home ffs

I have given up being upset by it tbh - their loss and my kids want for nothing in terms of love and attention

dizzydixies - interestng as my dh is also from NI (though has now been in Scotland longer than he lived there - MIL does not "like" to know this - her words!).

Her NI dcs are far more interesting to her than her scottish ones.

She also spends a lot of time here reading the Belfast Telegraph - ffs! (I don't say that much!!!)

same here weeg - they still ask him when he's coming 'home', he's been here since 1994 and they bring him all the back copies of the Mid Ulster Mid which get put in the blue bin the minute the leave (by me)

she complained when I said we weren't getting the boat over on Christmas eve to have Christmas day there and return on boxing day morning (we work shifts so never have time off over Christmas/New Year) however when I offered for them to come to us we were told that she would NEVER leave SIL and the DGC at Christmas imagine the thought. SIL has now got anothernewscumbag man and spends christmas there with him and his gadgiescumbagfamily kids so they're now left on their own over christmas/new year.

they're coming for their biannual visit in May with DNeice in tow - she's YEARS older than my girls and doesn't share any of the same interests so instead of spending time with my girls on DD2's birthday weekend they'll be in the town shopping with her so she doesn't feel excluded or bored

feck it, am done worrying about it and now have enough kids to justify them not staying in the house - the last time they did dFIL stormed out after I asked him to help with the washing up - he was on his 'holidays' and shouldn't be expected to pitch in

I'm offering you all my sympathy, I really am.

I'm from NI and have lived here all my life, so I'm here to say that not all NI women are mad... just all MILs!

Just to be nosey... do your MILs live in rural areas?

My DH is from a rural part of NI and moved up to Belfast to live with me when we got married 9 years ago. His mother seems to think he's moved to a different planet and is very odd about driving up to see us etc, but that's another thread in itself

She too keeps hinting to him about buying a house near her and seems to 100% forget that we both work in the city, have a mortgage etc. Urg! I feel your frustrations re MILs, but have no experience of your annoyances re GC.

Well, I used to think that my mother preferred her 3 other grandchildren as she talks about them non-stop on the phone. I used to feel quite sad that she appeared to show little interest in my two.

I mentioned it to my brother who laughed. When she talks to him she spends all her time talking about my two, and appears to show little interest in his.

Have you talked to your siblings about this? I wonder what their perspective is?

llareggub thank goodness for that, my dbrother unfortunately is completely aware of how it used to be and was even mortified enough to apologise for it and say he wouldn't blame me for resenting dnephew what a sad thing to say just because of an adult's behaviour - I should really get over it now she's no longer with us shouldn't I

OP - fingers crossed your situation is like llareggubs