Disapproving partner

[gypsophilia]

Are there any activities that you do that your partner disapproves of? Are there any that your partner does that you disapprove of?

What are the repercussions of this? And what activities are disapproved of?

Obviously there are some really bad ones, like disapproving of sleeping with the cute windowcleaner, but there are also some at the other end of the scale, like disapproving of you wearing a particular pair of jeans.

When is disapproval warranted, and at what point does it become controlling behaviour? Does going along with it make you a doormat, or does it make you a reasonable and understading partner?

I know this sounds like a research thing, but I am a name changer and just wondered what people's experiences of this are. My dp and I are having a psychological tussle over something that I do that he dispproves of and I won't let him stop me doing, on principle. He says he won't stop me, but he thinks less of me for it. Tbh we nearly broke up over it this weekend!

So I would be interested to hear other people's experiences of this.

Its not flying model planes is it? I recall some old thread along those lines

I hate this 'guess what' thread. I always run out of patience and bugger off to bed, only to find the OP came on later, did the big reveal, it all kicked off and the bloody thread gets deleted - all before I get chance to find out.

This one will go the same way.

Goodnight.

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It depends whether your DP's disapproval is because
he thinks what you are doing is harmful to your health (if it is smoking/drinking/recreational drugs then he may have a point, if it's one pill/spliff on a night out with mates then he is being a big of a Daily Mailer, but if it's a bottle of wine a day he may have a point)
It's impacting on family life (note - if by this he means that he has to look after the DC one hour a week while you go to evening class then that is NOT impacting on family life)
It means that he doesn't get his own way, or it's one small area where you are not actually putting his wishes first, in which case he is being unreasonable.

what a waste of airspace

is it playing call of duty?

DP hates me redecorating because he doesn't like the mess. I don't take any notice. And I hate him feeding our 20mo HoolaHoops every night because of the salt.

But we're both fairly peace loving and there's nothing that could end our relationship. If he tried to insist on anything, I'd leave. I'm a grownup and not interested in being dictated to.

Was thinking about this thread last night (little to be thinking about obviously) but you said that you don't want to say what your little 'thingy' is because he'll recognise you?

Really? If he's that thick that he hasn't already figured out it's you by what you've already posted then his disapproval is the least of your worries

You need to stop farting around on here and go stop the stupid fucker from walking into walls

Do you scratch your crotch and then sniff your fingers? Is that what annoys him?

Ohhhh, you like watching porno is that it?

Do you collect thimbles?

Oh No! He disapproves of Mumsnet!

Jenbot - I thought my mother was the only person who did that!

It must be something really shameful. Do you wear socks and sandles?

weegiemum - my thoughts exactly! OP are we right - he disapproves of you spending too much time on the computer, mainly mumsnet? And he disapproves, because he suspects that you are discussing personal/private things about your relationship or having a complain about him?

My dh does the same thing - He thinks that everyone who surfs the Internet is a potential paedophile, looking to groom someone - yeah right, like a paedophile is going to surf MUMsnet.

Just a thought, if he's objecting to your voting habits then that's a fairly majorly out-of order attitude.

"My dh does the same thing - He thinks that everyone who surfs the Internet is a potential paedophile, looking to groom someone - yeah right, like a paedophile
is going to surf MUMsnet"
Actually we had a suspected paedophile on here some years back - a woman no less.

Op is it that your dh objects to your career as a freelance journalist? And objects to you trawling the net posting fictitious senarios to gain your information?

LouIsOnAHighwayToHell - Maybe I know your mum!

DandyLioness - if you ran a Chesney Hawkes fan club, would you be the One and Only fan?

Campaigning for the BNP?
Reading Katie Price's books?

wannaBe

It's sacrificing goats, of course. I don't know why you're all dredging up this weird stuff that nobody does.

cross-dressing is my guess.

The only thing I do which DH disapproves of (and I can see his point) is watch Big Brother